How can I get my children to forgive me?

I am 54. I was widowed in 2016 after a 13-year marriage to my second wife, who was from the Philippines. I recently married again without telling my adult children from my first marriage. My new wife is also Filipina. She has supported me through my bereavement; she is my lifeline. At the moment she is with her children in the Philippines, as her ex-boyfriend, their father, was shot dead. When I told my children about my marriage, they went mad. They think that she only wants me so she can come to Ireland, which is not true. I send my children texts about once a month, but have had no reply. I love them, and we were close until this happened. I want to go to their workplaces and have a showdown. Understandably your new wife needs to be with her children. I am sorry that yours are so angry with you. Perhaps they are upset that you didn’t feel able to tell them about your wedding. Although you were all close before, you don’t say whether they got on with your second wife; I wonder whether they still find it difficult to accept you not being married to their mother. Do not on any account have a showdown! As your children won’t talk to you, write to them and apologise for not telling them that you were getting married, then tell them how much you love your new wife and what a support she has been to you after the death of your second wife. Say that you don’t want to be alone for the rest of your life. Explain that you love them very much and that you miss them and hope they will forgive you. I expect that your children will come round in time.