All he does is work and we never see him

My husband works long hours to support me and our two children, aged eight and ten. But I work part time to contribute to the household budget too and combine this with looking after the children. I love my husband, but not as much as I used to. It feels as though I’m a single parent as he does so little with them and I feel emotionally neglected. My resentment is making me angry. He says he loves me, but if this situation continues the marriage will suffer more. He is a kind, caring, intelligent man and I don’t want us to break up or to inflict divorce on our children. If you and your husband love each other, it is a good basis to try to resolve your problems. What you don’t say is whether you have tried talking to him about how lonely you are and whether you have felt able to express your anger or if it is just seething away inside you. You need to talk to him about it. Anger never achieves anything, so calmly explain how much you appreciate him working so hard to support you all, but that you feel neglected and you are starting to resent it. You should tell him that you need to feel close emotionally as well as sexually for the marriage to thrive. I expect that he is probably exhausted with all the long hours he works, so perhaps you need to agree that he has some downtime at weekends, but that you also have time doing fun things as a family. I recommend joint counselling with Accord (accord.ie).