WHY DOES HE HAVE TO DRIVE LIKE A LUNATIC?

QI am 43 and divorced with two children aged ten and eight. Three months ago, I met a new man who seemed so exciting after my dull marriage. He’s handsome, very funny, gives me lots of attention and he’s fantastic in bed. He is ten years older than me and has grown-up children. However, I recently discovered a big problem – he drives like a lunatic. Recently we went away together for a long weekend and the way he flew down narrow country lanes terrified me. When I asked him to slow down, he did eventually, but he just laughed and said that he is always in control of the car. There seems to have been a slightly tense air since and I’m not sure what to do.

AThis sounds like a man having a bit of a midlife crisis. I expect his car is more sports than saloon, too. My first action if I were you would be to refuse to get into any vehicle that he was driving unless he agreed to change how he behaved behind the wheel. You need to explain to him that, while you are having a lot of fun and are really enjoying this new relationship, you are not prepared to put your life unnecessarily at risk in this way. For the sake of his own children, he should be following suit. To be honest I think his behaviour is immature – and while driving fast might be something you’d expect from a 25-year-old (although, again, not acceptable), you have to question why he still feels the need for speed. If he is not prepared to take your fears into account and to consider your safety when you are with him, then unfortunately it doesn’t say a lot for his character.

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