WHY ARE SOME PARENTS POISO

mother is the witnessing of the mother being bullied and maltreated by the father, which subconsciously sends the message that she is weak and unable to protect them.

The frightened child then aligns with the aggression of the father in a bid to feel safer. Central to this dynamic is that the child will unconsciously adopt the ideas or attitudes of their father, fusing his experience as theirs.

Further to this subconscious alignment, children are vulnerable to whichever parent is prepared to control them. When a child rejects a parent, the reality is that the child is responding by adapting their behaviours in order to survive the pathological alignment with one of their parents.

When the child says an absolute no to having a relationship with their parent, with there having been no neglect or abuse by the parent who is being rejected, this indicates that they have had to use the defence mechanism of psychological