‘ We started as three women on a journey. It breaks my heart I’ll be the only one left ’
We’ve all been awed by the indomitable spirit of cancer podcaster Deborah James. Here her co-presenter salutes the friend who taught her ‘to live — and live well’
L‘Her work has saved so many lives already’
AUREN MAHON has run the gamut of almost every emotion you can think of in the past week. ‘You can ask me how I am feeling at any point during the day, and it will be different,’ the 37-year-old reflects.
‘There’s anguish and grief, numbness and shock, but also sheer elation, pride and gratitude at what Deb has achieved.’
Deb being Deborah James, the 40year-old former deputy headteacher who was diagnosed with stage three bowel cancer just over five years ago. She courageously made it her mission to draw attention to the disease, which went on to become stage four and incurable.
Using the moniker ‘Bowelbabe’, she wrote a frank and fearless blog be fore becoming one of a trio of presenters bringing us the equally frank, often very funny and blisteringly honest BBC podcast You, Me And The Big C.
Lauren, a former social media manager who was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2016 aged 31, and the late Rachael Bland were the other two points of this powerhouse broadcasting triangle — their work has won countless awards — until Rachael’s tragic death from breast cancer in September 2018 at the age of 40, just six months after the podcast was launched.
Rachael’s widower Steve subsequently took her place, and the podcast has continued to go from strength to strength, even as Deborah navigated one cancerrelated health crisis after another. ‘She has always been the comeback kid,’ as Lauren puts it.
Sadly not this time. In a heart-breaking post on social media earlier this week, Deborah revealed that she had run out of treatment options and was now receiving end-of-life hospice care at her parents’ home. ‘Nobody knows how long I’ve got left,’ she wrote. Showing the lack of selfpity that has characterised her journey, she urged readers to do something positive to ‘see her out’ by donating to her cancer research fund.
She had hoped to raise €295,000 but, at the time of writing, the sum had surpassed €7million, with the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge among those to donate and pay tribute to her bravery.
Little wonder that Lauren’s eyes fill up — as they do frequently during our interview — when she contemplates her friend’s legacy. ‘I’m so proud of her,’ she says. ‘Her work has saved so many lives already, but she will save and prolong so many more because of this money. ‘I couldn’t be prouder of her.’ Nonetheless, it is a bittersweet achievement, not just for Deborah’s family — her parents, sister, brother, husband Sebastien Bowen and children Hugo, 14, and Eloise, 12 — but for all those who knew her well.
Lauren is among them, for while she first met Deborah only four years ago, their shared experience forged a unique and unbreakable bond.
‘We’ve been through something so powerful together — what we have created with the podcast has changed the way cancer is talked about and experienced,’ Lauren says. ‘The thing I’m really struggling with is that Rachael, Deb and I started this together as a threesome and the prospect of not having either of them around is difficult. I can’t get my head around it.’
That’s all too evident, with Lauren veering from disbelief to tangible grief as she reflects on the events of the past few days.
‘It’s such a weird space to be in,’ she says. ‘I feel like I am mourning someone who is not yet gone. I am not in denial, but at the same time there is this disbelief that this really is it.’
Monday marks five years since Lauren was given the all-clear — an important milestone, although she takes nothing for granted.
Charismatic and down-to-earth, Lauren had a carefree girl-abouttown life in her native London when she found a lump in her breast in May 2016.
She let it be, hoping it would go away, until a friend urged her to get it checked.
A few weeks later, she was sitting in a breast clinic getting her diagnosis: she had stage three cancer and an aggressive 2.8cmlong tumour.
‘I knew it was a process I had to get through,’ she says. Months of gruelling chemotherapy, radiotherapy and a lumpectomy followed.
By the time she was given the allclear, she had set up GirlvsCancer, a vivid, honest and relatable blog platform where women can share their stories.
It also sells merchandise which has raised money for cancer charities.
In 2018, the site brought her to the attention of BBC journalist Rachael, who had been diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer in November 2016 and had come up with the idea of a podcast to raise awareness.
A fan of Lauren and Deborah’s fearless dispatches from the cancer frontline, she asked them to come on board.
The accomplished broadcaster, the plain-speaking deputy head and feisty girl-next-door Lauren were in some ways an unlikely trio, yet immediately hit it off.
‘In terms of the circles we operated in, we never would have met if it wasn’t for cancer,’ Lauren reflects.
‘In terms of our taste and things we liked, we couldn’t be more different, but we couldn’t love each other more — and being different is what made it work, as we were all coming from different points of view and experiences of life.’
Amazingly, given the instant success of the podcast, the trio had never got together before they took to the microphone at a BBC studio in February 2018.
Deborah and Lauren met for the first time at Euston station to catch the train to Manchester ahead of that first recording session, and Lauren smiles as she recalls the beautifully turned-out brunette heading towards her in a big floppy hat and velvet blazer.
‘It became a joke that whenever we boarded the train to Manchester I looked like I was getting the bus to Glastonbury and she looked like she was stepping onto a yacht,’ Lauren laughs.
‘She always looks glamorous in every situation.’ There was instant chemistry. ‘We both sat down and started chatting and we just didn’t stop talking,’ she says.
The same spark was present when they met Rachael in the studio and, once translated onto the airwaves, it made for compelling listening.
‘I think that’s why the podcast flows so naturally because it is a chat between people who have lived and experienced cancer. There is no right or wrong, it is just how we were feeling.’
It is certainly ground-breaking — in a world where cancer is often spoken about in whispers, the trio brought humour and candour to the subject, covering everything from sex to body image through the prism of their own experiences. In the process, they got people to take responsibility for their own health.
‘There’s a stigma behind cancer