FLIRTY SCHOOL GATE DAD FEAR

Dear Coleen

I’ve been very happily married for 20 years – and I still am. The problem is, I’ve started chatting to one of the dads at the school gates and there’s definitely something between us.

He’s not particularly my type to look at, but there’s just a spark there and I find myself dressing up to do the school run. I feel really disappointed if he’s not there when we pick up the kids.

I’m worried I feel like this. Does it mean my relationship is in trouble? I don’t think I’d actually take things any further and I’m very happy with my husband but these feelings – which I haven’t felt for a long time – are unsettling. What do you think?

I should also mention that he’s married, too.

Coleen says

When you’ve been with someone a long time, naturally that butterflies phase goes. You’re secure so don’t make as much effort or tell the other person they look beautiful or sexy.

So when someone comes along and pays you attention and awakens that side of yourself, it’s exciting. It’s wonderful to know you’re still attractive to the opposite sex after being in a relationship for so long and that’s what you’re loving.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that so long as that’s how it stays. This guy might be thinking the same thing.

But I bet your hubby still finds you really attractive, it’s just that he doesn’t say it all the time. You don’t flirt with each other because you know everything about one another.

This friendship with the dad at school could be a sign you need to spice up things at home a little and make more effort to do those things you did when you first met.