JEALOUS HE’S LIVING WITH ANOTHER GIRL

Dear Coleen

My boyfriend is living in America for a few months and is staying in a flat with a girl from home, and I have never been so jealous in my life. It makes me so upset to think about them being together all the time.

I know that he would never cheat, but I’m struggling with the amount of time they spend together, watching box sets, shopping, enjoying days out, going out for dinner and drinks, and so on.

It doesn’t help that I miss him so much and I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid, but it’s as if he likes me feeling like this. If he sends me a picture of his day, she is often in the photo somewhere.

We are meant to be moving in together when he gets back for our third year of university and the other night he suggested that she lives with us, too!

I don’t understand why but that crushed me. I hate how big a part she has in his life right now and I’m worried he might fall in love with her. How can I control these feelings?

Coleen says

I think if you’re two friends living in a different country, you are going to stick together, socialise together and rely on each other for certain things. However, that doesn’t make it any easier for you.

Photos don’t always tell the real story. You’re seeing these pictures as romantic, but I have male friends I go out with and if you saw a snapshot you might think there was more to it than friendship.

It might be best to stay off social media and communicate with him directly so you don’t drive yourself mad looking at photos of them together. On the plus side, you know there’s an end date and he’ll be home soon.

However, when it comes to her moving in with you, I think you’re entitled to say no to that.

And, if he objects, then you’ll know he’s not committed and he’s putting her ahead of you and your relationship.