I DON’T like my UNI BUT CAN’T Tell Family

Dear Coleen

I’m an 18-year-old girl who started university in September and I’m hating it.

I spent all of Christmas wanting to tell my parents how I feel, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it because I didn’t want to ruin the holiday for everyone. I know it would upset them, as they were so happy I got a place on my chosen course and they’re really proud of me. I’d hate to disappoint them.

I’ve made friends and I’m enjoying having independence, but I hate the course and have realised it’s not for me. At the same time, I don’t know what I do want to do.

Have you any advice?

Coleen says

Yes, most importantly, don’t panic. You’re only 18 and have time to get it right and find out what it is you do want to do. If I were you, I’d speak to your tutors at uni and explain how you’re feeling – get their advice. They might have some suggestions about your course or about different courses. You’ve only been there a term, so it might be wise to give it a bit more time to make sure it’s not just a wobble.

But if it turns out that it’s really not what you want to do, then don’t feel guilty about telling your parents. They want you to be happy and will be able to offer support and guidance, too.

Maybe you need to take a year out to work and think about your next step. It’s better to admit how you feel than carry on and be in the same position at the end of the year.

My kids have changed direction several times. Some people your age are certain what they want to do, but there are a lot who aren’t. Talk to your parents and good luck.