DID MY EX JUST USE ME FOR SEX?

Dear Coleen

I was dating my ex for almost seven months until he broke up with me, but he couldn’t really give a reason why.

Then last week he told me he misses me, so I went to see him and we had sex. He talked as if he wanted us to work things out.

However, I also learned he now has a girlfriend and, after the day we slept together, he didn’t contact me again. I’m not sure what he wanted and I feel used. Should I tell him how I feel?

Coleen says

Well, I’m sorry to say this, but it sounds like you have been used.

If it makes you feel better and more able to move on, you could tell him how he’s made you feel.

Or you could just accept it, put it down to experience and, the next time he calls, hang up.

Don’t be available to go over to his place and have sex. And, if for any reason he convinces you that he’s really interested in trying to make a relationship work, then go on dates, but don’t just jump into bed with him.

Unless he’s offering you something more than casual sex when the mood takes him, then don’t go there.

That’s clearly not what you want, so trust your instincts.