I can’t respect sex-mad sister
HOW CAN I CHEER HER NEW LIFE WITH LUSTY SLOB
MY BOYFRIEND won’t let the past go. He only likes music and TV shows from his 90s childhood.
Anything new is automatically bad but I can’t listen to Nirvana or re-watch The Fresh Prince again or I’ll scream.
He even wears loose jeans rather than the current skinny style which are in fashion and has his hair shaggy like Kurt Cobain.
Then there’s Friday movie night in our apartment where he watches those stupid Jim ‘Ace Ventura’ Carrey Pet Detective flicks and
Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire.
When that flick is on, he even fists pumps and jumps around shouting
MY sister has always chased the high life and is totally focused on money, sex, and thrills.
She was a hedonistic teen and selfish young mother. I virtually brought up her kids because she was too busy partying and sleeping around with anyone she liked the look of.
Now she’s finally divorced her longsuffering husband, has left their three kids to me and whoever else is around to pick up the slack and shacked up with an older man.
She openly admits he’s a sex addict, which she absolutely loves, and is very open about their increasingly bizarre sex life which I find really the catchphrase Cuba Gooding says: “Show me the money.”
It’s all so ridiculous and he’s stuck in a time warp. It’s not healthy to live in the past. How do I drag him up to date? embarrassing and pretty distasteful, if I’m honest.
I have to accept that my sister is an egomaniac and sensualist, but I can’t respect her for it.
Her life has been the total opposite of mine and yet I seem to be the one who is paying the price for her misdemeanours.
Slob
Her new partner is a lazy slob and they live in a falling- down rented house that I’d be ashamed to let anybody into.
Am I allowed to admit that I don’t like my own flesh and blood?
She’s planning a big housewarming party and has asked me to be happy
SIOBHAN SAYS: Presumably your boyfriend draws comfort from the familiar. Kicking back and listening to the same old tunes transports him back to a more safe and carefree time. for her.
But how can I force a smile when I don’t agree with any decision, she’s made in the past 37 years?
SIOBHAN SAYS: Your sister may frustrate you, but y ou can’t risk alienating her, for your sake and hers.
You may not agree with how she conducts herself but maybe she’ll finally calm down with this chap and turn her life around?
Wish her well while continuing to love and support your nieces and nephews.
The last thing they need is more friction within the family as they rely on you to be calm.
Don’t allow this to come between you but do beg him to keep an open mind. Suggest doing your own thing in separate spaces but make sure you come together for food, fun and love.
Perhaps you’ll have to accept your sister is a maverick.
You can’t blame her for being her own person and doing what she believes will make her happy.
It takes all sorts to make a world and – for good or for bad – she’s one of life’s free spirits.