She’s given up on our sex life

HER MENOPAUSE DROVE ME TO A FILTHY FLING

MY FELLA has been harassing co-workers.

He’s been telling smutty jokes, flashing and offering sexual favours.

He’s had an official warning and could lose his job if he crosses the line again.

I feel so let down and embarrassed. He was made redundant from his last job in 2018.

I stood by him when everyone was

SINCE experiencing an early menopause my partner has lost all interest in sex.

In the early days of the changes in her body she would complain that she was tired every time I tried anything on in the sack.

The excuses later got silly when she would say things like, ‘Oh, I forgot to bring a glass of water from the kitchen’. She’d then hop out of bed and trundle down the stairs.

It got to the stage when we hadn’t had any nookie for months and I finally confronted her. She broke down in tears and said her lack of appetite for sex was due to an early menopause – at 45.

I told her I understood and showed empathy, but I’m still virile and need my needs met.

So for a few months, I’ve been having a filthy fling with an old girlfriend.

I told her from the start I’m not interested in romance. She said she understood and led me to believe she was also seeing someone else.

Sack

Only now she keeps referring to me as her boyfriend and posting embarrassing/dangerous stuff on social media.

Luckily my partner isn’t computer savvy, but how do I make my lover understand this is just a casual thing?

SIOBHAN SAYS: Face up to the fact that everything has gone too far. Your partner deserves better, and your lover needs to have it explained to her this “fling” is going nowhere.

In your eyes your lover has committed the crime of falling in love with you but she can’t help how she feels considering how intimate you are. You’ve let both women down and you need to be honest enough to admit that you’ve been a rat.

Tell your partner the truth so that she can decide where she wishes to go from here. You owe her that – but don’t be despondent if she decides to give you the elbow. That may be the best course of action for the pair of you in light of what’s gone down.

If nothing else, encourage her to speak to her GP regarding her struggle with the menopause. She needs to know that she’s not alone.

Testosterone patches and HRT might help restore her sex drive – but that might help her with her next lover, not you.