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“There’s no point in expecting your life to all just be perfect and wonderful and rainbows and kittens. That’s bulls***. “A couple years ago, I had this really horrible run of luck. I was meant to get married and it didn’t happen. I lost my grandma, and I lost my best friend and up until t tm that point I’d been doing the m mw most to make it seem like I wws was strong and together and slim and all of those things. “But actually under the surface, I was in an unhappy relationship.
“I was trying to look a way that I thought was going to make me happy and I was foregoing so many things that actually would bring me joy.
“But life’s a journey isn’t it? You don’t just wake up one day when you hit 30 and go, ‘Oh, I’m lush.’
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Vicky’s heart- on- her sleeve attitude means that her fan interaction is predominantly positive.
“I’ve had messages from people saying: ‘This really helped me come to terms with this,’ or, ‘you made me realise there was life after I was cheated on,’ or, ‘ I realised it’s okay to not shave every day.’
“Do I shave every day? Who the f*** has got time to shave every day?” says Vicky who says she’s neither the glamourous pin up or the double chinned klutz she alternately depicts on her Instagram.
“The truth is like most women I’m multifaceted.”
Vicky’s current positivity is in stark contrast to the depression and suicidal thoughts that plagued her in 2014, a year after she was convicted of two counts of assault following a drunken attack on a model.
She was sentenced to 180 hours of community service and sought psychiatric help to manage her anger problems and turn her life around and in January publishes her self help book Vicky Pattison: The Secret To Happy, but freely admits that she’s still a work in progress.
“We all have to go through certain things in life, and you can’t have light without shade.
“It’s not like that. It’s a process but I’m definitely so much more content and happy with myself than
I’ve ever been.
“I’m finally in a place where I realise that a number on a scale does not equate to happiness. “I’malsoinaplace where I know that having a boyfriend is really lovely, but I realise that if I’m not happy with who I a m, that’s not gonna make me any happier.
“I’m really happy and I want other women to be contented and happy too.”
Vicky is also a flag waving — but not bra burning — feminist and is passionate about emotionally and sexually educating
Britain’s men.
“There are loads of misconceptions when you say you’re a feminist.
“Everyone thinks I’m walking around being really hairy and burning my bras and stuff but there’s no bra burning here. I’m a big fan of the bra.
“I consider myself to be a modern- day feminist and just I don’t believe in putting other women down.
“If you can’t encourage other women on their journey and if you can’t cheer loud when they do well then you have no right to call yourself a woman.”
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