Ex is only in it for the money

I SHOULD NEVER HAVE LET MY FIRST LOVE GO

MY PARTNER’S inability to settle and be grateful for what we have is coming between us.

We’ve only been in our flat for a couple of months. I love it, I feel cosy and calm.

But he’s looking for somewhere “better”.

He’s saying he wants a big project in the country — a “doer-upper”.

When I point out that my job is

I’M CONVINCED my ex is only sleeping with her boss because he’s rich.

She swears that’s not true. She claims to love and respect him.

But how can she when he’s 58 and she’s only 23?

He’s been married and divorced twice and has four children with another woman.

I’ve seen him around and he’s nothing to write home about.

As well as being flash and loud he’s demanding and aggressive.

My ex-claims that he’s a pussy cat and that I can’t judge him when I don’t know him like she does, but I keep telling her that she’s blinded by his cash and assets. he drives a number of fast cars and has a place in Spain.

Any time I phone her she boasts that he’s better in bed than I ever was, which hurts. country lodges and forgotten where she’s from.

How do I make her understand that I’m the only person for her and that if she keeps making a fool of herself with him, then it’s only going to end in personal humiliation, hurt and disaster?

SIOBHAN SAYS: I understand that you’re finding it very hard to let go of the past, but what part of “ex-girlfriend” don’t you understand?

I realise that you’re still concerned and care about your first lover, but she’s moved on.

It’s not for you to keep calling, questioning and, dare I say, harassing her?

She is an individual and free to date