Bully likes to fat shame me in workplace

SIOBHAN SAYS: Clearly your guy has decided that the buttoned- up look is no longer a good fit now that his circumstances have changed.

Respect

You do not approve of his new “comfies” image — but if you no longer respect him, can you stay together?

People change as life changes.

It could be a simple case of this being the man under the well groomed mask all along.

Looks are only one factor. How does he treat you?

A COLLEAGUE is making me feel self- conscious.

She’s incredibly fit and every time she sees me eating a bag of crisps or a bar of chocolate, she makes a snarky remark.

She knows every calorie in every bite and likes to shame me.

I constantly feel guilty and it’s getting to the point where I feel

As well as a penthouse apartment, embarrassed about getting out my packed lunch.

The other day she suggested I get fit, smarten up and lose a stone or people won’t take me seriously at work.

Now I feel terrible. What’s her game?

SIOBHAN SAYS: I wonder if this

All I want her to do is calm down and come back to me. Everyone says it makes sense. We are meant to be together.

Young

We fell in love at school at 16. We shared our first kiss and went to bed at 17 during a caravan holiday in Rhyl.

I know I should never have allowed her to take a job at his firm, it was always going to end in disaster.

She’s had her head turned by boozy lunches and training weekends in nasty colleague feels threatened by you and makes her remarks to bring you down?

Comments

I suggest you look her in the eye and ask her to keep her comments to herself, then take your lunch elsewhere and eat in private.

Ask your boss if you can be moved to a different desk or department because you’re struggling to concentrate — but vow to hold your head up high.

She has no right to tell you what you should eat or how you should behave.

It’s your life and you can make your own healthy choices.

In the meantime, I would anyone she likes.

You might not approve of her current lover, but who is asking for your approval?

As for you kicking yourself for “allowing” her to take her job in the first place, just listen to yourself.

Possessive

I get it that you and she were close for a time, you shared some significant milestones together, which I’m sure were wonderful at the time.

But you don’t own her — and never have done.

Shut the door on the past and vow to move on.

Stop calling her and start living. This current situation isn’t healthy, you can’t keep obsessing about her. document everything she says to you and note the number of times you have asked her to stop, in order to report this to HR.

This is bullying plain and simple and cannot be allowed to go on.

If your boss refuses to commit to dealing with the situation, take this higher up the chain or to a workers’ union.