Super sex makes me suspect cheat
LOVER’S LIBIDO A WORRY JANE O’GORMAN SOLVES YOUR PROBLEMS TODAY ... AND EVERY DAY
MY partner has become super-enthusiastic in the bedroom.
Suddenly he’s throwing me all over the mattress. He is ripping my clothes off and can’t get enough of my body.
The sex is too good, and something is definitely up…
The last time he was like this, he was in the throes of a passionate affair with an ex-friend.
I found out he was cheating as he returned from a “work trip” with love bites all over his chest.
He claimed he’d been attacked by bed bugs in his hotel room. I grabbed his bag and discovered designer underpants, expensive aftershave (a gift from her) and a jumbo box of condoms.
I said: “Tell me the truth or I’ll hire a detective,” and he sang like a canary.
He sobbed that he’d been sleeping with my “mate” for three months and that it was all a big mistake.
When I asked him how he’d managed to make love to her and me straight after each other, he admitted that flitting from one bed to another increased his ego and libido and made him hornier.
Now he’s horny again and I’m suspicious.
This is a man I usually have to beg for oral sex. A man who denied me satisfaction for the whole of our holiday back in March – because of his bad foot.
Yet, the other night he performed a sexual marathon. He enticed me up to bed at 9pm and we were still at it at 1am.
From bondage and sex toys to squirty cream and spanking, he was on fire.
Look, I enjoyed it. I’m a highly sexed woman and love being adored and touched.
But I smell a very large rat. It feels like history is repeating itself – red flags are flying.
How do I approach this, and has he already had his second chance?
JANE SAYS: All relationships are complicated, but I have to admit I’m puzzled by yours.
You say you’re a highly sexed woman, so why do you stay with a man who turns passion on and off like a tap?
During “normal” times (when he’s not cheating) he struggles to raise a smile. Yet when he’s cheating, he’s all over you like a rash. How is that healthy or fair?
Clearly your instincts are now telling you that he’s playing away again – all the signs are there.
The raging libido, the energy and the imagination. I know you’re furious and exasperated, but you have to confront him. You did it before and you must do it again.
He has to tell you who he’s sleeping with this time. Is he serious about this person? How did they meet?
Don’t allow him to fob you off or tell you that you’re crazy because you aren’t stupid.
Do you have to threaten to turn detective again?
As for second chances, he was lucky you took him back the last time.
I think you’d be better off with someone who matches you in every department.