Old pal ruined holiday

I’M just back from a disastrous holiday with an old mate.

We shared a twin room for economy, but I never expected her to bring back a different bloke for noisy sex every night.

She didn’t care about waking me up or that I was right next to her.

One night she had one guy in the bed and another banging on the door. The receptionist rang up and told us to behave as other guests were complaining.

I spent €800 on that break. Now we’re back and she can’t understand why I’m still so angry.

JANE SAYS: You have to accept that she is no friend of yours.

She, very selfishly, filled her sexual boots without any regard for your safety or comfort. Presumably you told her to stop messing around and she chose to ignore you.

Perhaps she’ll understand how angry you are if you suggest you repays the €800 you splashed out on a trip that you’re still reeling from.

I don’t for one minute expect she’ll give you a penny, but you’re entitled to be angry because she acted like an idiot.

You’re also entitled to dump her because she’s not worthy of your friendship.

MY late husband was extremely naughty.

He’d knock on our door at lunchtime dressed as anything from a horny plumber to a doctor or a fireman. He’d say he’d come to “sort out a problem in the bedroom” and we’d have sex.

He’d stay in character the whole time. The passion and urgency were off the scale – and then he’d leave again. He’d eventually come home at 6pm – in his normal clothes – and ask if I’d had a good day.

Now he’s gone and I can’t find anyone to match him for sheer energy and imagination. How do I cope when I’ve tasted and experienced the best?

JANE SAYS: Your late husband was a character. He enjoyed dressing up and thrilling you in the bedroom. I’m very sorry for your loss.

He’s clearly a hard act to follow but it’s vital you keep an open mind and give future lovers a chance.

Maybe you’ll be the one who takes the lead when it comes to saucy games and surprises in future. Perhaps you’ll have to nurture and show others how it’s done to your satisfaction.

Accept that he was special but other individuals may have other skills and thrills to offer.

Mourn your man and vow to look forward too.

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