Grasping family is after my cash
THEY’RE ALL SO GREEDY
MY family are a greedy bunch of money grabbers.
They never show me an ounce of respect yet expect regular handouts.
My Mum tells me I’m “lucky” for having such a well-paid job, but I work like stink five days a week and some weekends too.
I put myself through university with no help from them, yet I’m constantly sneered at for being “stuck up” and “hoity toity” for having a degree.
This is grossly unfair. My sister is jealous of my job; she calls me snobby and selfish because she’s at home with her kids while I get to travel the world (with work) and enjoy different experiences.
I know that my Dad resents the fact that I earn more than him and my Mum can’t understand why I have no desire to settle down with a nice man.
Well, for a start, I’m into women. I don’t fancy men. All of my lovers are female, but that’s beside the point. What gets me about my family is their combined sense of entitlement.
When I attempt to talk about my work, I’m told to “shut up” because I’m boring. Yet the minute one of them needs money for an unexpected bill, big shop, or repair on the house, they text me faster than you can say “ATM’”.
The other day my Mum sent a
BANK ON ME: She is fed up with being disrespected and used like a cash machine
message that simply said: “Send your sister £200 and don’t ask why.” How rude is that? I DID ask why, and it turned out my sister fancied getting her nails and hair done to cheer herself up.
My colleagues have families who are supportive and proud; mine are bitter and resentful. As for anyone actually paying me back, forget it. I once suggested my brother return £500 I lent him for a holiday and my father nearly ripped my head off. I was told that I should be happy and honoured to help out.
How do you like that?
JANE SAYS: Why should your
relatives expect anything? Surely, it’s for you to decide who deserves something – and who doesn’t.
I suggest you get in quickly and tell your brother that his loan needs to be repaid because you’re not a bank.
From now on I suggest you get tough and deal with your grasping family very much on your terms.
If you want to give something, then do it, but don’t allow anyone to text you with their request or treat you like a human cash machine.
The fact that you hand out anything at all is a bonus.
Stand your ground and make it clear that this ends here.
Sadly, I fear that with familiarity has come contempt. Your folks are so used to squeezing you like a lemon that they’ve stopped having any kind of regard for you or your efforts.
Speak up before they collectively crush your spirit and bleed you dry.
Above all, don’t allow yourself to be guilt tripped into coughing up because you have to think about your own future too. You’re doing a good job and deserve to be proud of yourself.