Haunted by guilt over fling

Dear Anne

I’ve just come back from a girly holiday with my old bridesmaids (from 10 years ago) and we had a wonderful time.

But I had a holiday fling and now I’m haunted by guilt.

I’ve never had an affair before and I never will again. So, should I tell my husband or stay quiet and try to live with the guilt?

Anne says

A great many long-lasting and wonderful marriages survive one affair. They rarely survive two. So, you have to make up your mind just how sincere you are when you vow you’ll never do it again. Consider whether, if he knew about it, your husband would forgive you and move on. If he confessed a similar affair to you, could you forgive him? Only you know how strong your bond is, and how he might take the news. Only you can decide whether to keep a secret for ever or own up. Don’t do what’s best for your conscience, do what’s best for your marriage.