He wants romantic break... I want out

advantage, so tell him that you know, but insist on a long, frank conversation about whether it’s the right thing for you to go on a second honeymoon together.

You must tell him you were planning something altogether different. It’s only fair.

He is obviously aware that your marriage has problems, but he thinks it can be repaired, while you don’t. Don’t let this go on any longer – tell him straight away.

You must then decide what you really want to happen next. Could you go on a holiday with him at all?

You both need time off and sunshine – now that you each know what the other thinks, could you enjoy that time off together?

Some couples can stay friends – are you like that or will there be too much hurt? And now that you know he wants to try to give your marriage a ‘restart’, does that interest you at all?

Many women might be flattered by such a gesture.

I’m sure you both deserve a luxury cruise, so before he loses any money on it, why don’t you fully explore if you could go as friends or second honeymooners? But you both owe each other honesty, which could keep things amicable in the long run.

Be honest with him... maybe you could still go away as friends if there’s not too much hurt