Son’s lover shouldn’t be mum

With an adult child you can’t live their lives for them. You never really know what happens in other people’s relationships – it may be healthier and happier than you think. Her lifestyle may appeal to your son but, as his mum, there may be subtle ways you can tell them how a child can seriously change their lives. By opposing their relationship you risk losing them and, potentially, a grandchild from your life. Is there a way of nudging them towards “pre-marital” or family counselling? See www.accord.ie or call 015053112.