How can I tell her I’m fed up with fatherhood?
EVERY FRIDAY IN YOUR
there’s something wrong with your relationship, and she might think another baby would help. So it’s not fair to keep her in the dark. Tell her how you feel, as sensitively as you can because this revelation might be really devastating.
Selfish or not, in one respect you are dead right – you really should not try for another baby.
You say you are not “hands on”, and refer to your daughter as “the kid” – so perhaps you are not good dad material right now.
Some would say you’re brave to admit it. But you already have a child, so you cannot just go back to your former life. You have responsibilities, and even if you don’t love your girlfriend any more, you owe her financial and emotional support. It would be nice if you could learn how to change a nappy too.
Once you have talked it through and there will be tears – you must then decide on a future for all three of you.
Do you stay together? Can you learn to love being a dad? And if you want out, how are you going to support them?
These are massive issues, but you must face up to them now. Sort out some counselling. Your life ahead doesn’t have to be bleak and you may be able to rebuild something valuable and fulfilling. But you will need expert guidance.
I miss the life we had before our little girl. Another kid and I think I’d have to leave home for good