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Shirley Ballas has enjoyed a sparkling career on the dance floor and is in even greater demand now as the show’s revered head judge.
But all the glamour and glitter of showbusiness takes a back seat once she leaves the studio and focuses on the person who needs her more than ever right now – her mum.
Audrey, 81, has cancer and Shirley has quietly turned nurse to help her through.
Speaking about her mum’s illness for the first time, Shirley, 58, says: “She was diagnosed earlier this year. But she’s a trouper and we are dealing with it.”
The pair speak at least four times a day and spend as much time as possible together. And opening up for the first time, Shirley heaps praise on her mum’s courage and strength in recent months.
She goes on: “I came over to her in the summer to take care of her and I had to learn to be a nurse.
“I would put her food down on a tray on her bed and I would be standing there like, ‘Is this okay?’
“And she would say, ‘You did good. Maybe a bit more salt next time’.”
With a smile, Shirley adds: “I did good. I cooked for her, did all the washing, cleaning and her injections.
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“I’d make things like mashed potato and salmon but no other vegetables. She couldn’t have anything green.
“And I wasn’t sure I was going to be any good because I’m a terrible cook.
“I tried to boil an egg once and it blew up and hit the ceiling!”
Audrey has decided not to have chemotherapy, a decision Shirley, who has a son Mark, 32, supports.
They are incredibly close. And over the years they have celebrated the highs and weathered the lows together.
Shirley’s brother David was 44 when he took his own life 15 years ago after suffering with depression.
She goes on: “It was in the Christmas period that David died so as we run up to it now I normally find my mood changing. No one saw it coming.
“My mum went to visit him for six weeks when he was low and he came down to see Mark sing in the church choir. That was the day he chose to kill himself.
“When I start to feel like I’m going into a solemn place I try to just relive the good times.
“Fortunately I have my mum to talk to and my son is a huge confidante. Mum’s a star to raise two kids on her own and come through what she has. Yet she never complains or moans. I’m really blessed.”
Speaking out to help others, Shirley adds: “For all the people who are struggling and suffering, my heart goes out to them, particularly at Christmas.
“I don’t want anyone to have to go through what our family has.
“You don’t need to suffer alone. Please reach out. There are people out there who care.”
Shirley credits David’s early encouragement as instrumental in her success as three-time world ballroom champ.
She turned to coaching and filled Len Goodman’s shoes when he left Strictly.
It’s all a long way from her upbringing on the Leasowe council estate in With her fellow judges on Strictly Shirley is grateful for time with her mum Wallasey, Merseyside. “People say to me, ‘Oh, you’re so lucky’, but I worked 50 years for everything I have and it’s not all been plain sailing and easy,” Shirley says.
Referring to David, she adds: “We move on but we never forget. The pain never goes away, the self-inflicted blame at myself for not doing more at the time.”
Shirley suffered yet more heartache in 2007 when her second marriage, to fellow dance pro Corky, ended after 23 years.
Then, just days before Strictly last