Shannon’s tale provides solace

Sir — Barry Egan collates a compelling catalogue of sensitivity as he traces Sharon Shannon’s candid disclosure of her very personal grief experience. (News Features,

July 26). Her honesty in the telling of the painful odyssey borne from the sudden loss of her life partner offers a valuable resonance for many who have suffered a similar fate. A fate wherein the paralysing confusion of it all cries out for some inspiring template of meaningful solace.

The role of personally significant music choices to help process and relieve the pain of such loss is traced in Egan’s article with an empathetic authenticity, as Sharon Shannon reveals the value and validity of various songs, which coaxed along a catharsis.

Music can offer worthy support in the chaos of bereavement. That said, the pain of loss is always challenging — something to be endured, and worked through. While full ‘healing’ is unlikely, and perhaps not always desirable vis-a-vis keeping the memory ‘alive’ (as Sharon Shannon warmly relates), it could be likened to a deep cut that heals to a manageable degree, but always remains as an ‘iffy’ scar that can burst open sometimes. Maybe no harm, in terms of cherishing memory.

The final uplifting thread in Barry Egan’s piece, highlighting the Rosabel’s Rooms charity supporting families that suffer the tragic loss of young children, shines a supportive ray of positivity in the dark zone of grim acceptance which accompanies such grief journeys. Barry Egan and Sharon Shannon have certainly done the State some decent emotional service.

Jim Cosgrove,

Lismore, Co Waterford