What to do when you lose your mojo
Sometimes you feel you are ‘in the zone’, a place where almost everything seems possible. You are on top of things and feel positive, optimistic and hopeful. You have a spark and people feel it. You feel motivated to do and be better and make the world a better place.
Other times you lose your ‘mojo’. And that feeling can take over too! It can permeate every part of your life and make even doing the most simple things an uphill battle. Have you ever found yourself not wanting to get up and go to work – because of a series of knocks and shocks that have rocked your world and made you question everything?
How long you lose your mojo for depends on how long it takes you to work out how to get it back and create a life that has meaning for you. It can take days, weeks months or even years to get fully in the zone.
Your ‘mojo’ is an invisible quality that makes you successful, energized and attracts people. You feel excited, interested, enthusiastic and in sync with things. Having your mojo gives a new lease of life. You are motivated, ‘on the ball’ and present in the moment.
Not having it means, less or no energy, motivation, confidence or self-belief. Life feels dull. The inner cynic can even take over. What is the point? Here are 10 ways to boost and maintain mojo.
1. Find meaning in your life and live a meaningful life. We can get through even the most difficult of situations when there is meaning for us. Victor Frankl’s book about his time as an Auschwitz concentration camp inmate Man’s Search for Meaninggives great inspiration. We can persuade ourselves to achieve the incredible when there is meaning for us. If you don’t see the point, it can be difficult to do even small things.
2. Have goals and break them down into plans and actions you do daily.
3. Write down a list of what is important to you in your life and spend as much time as you can focussing and doing those things daily and weekly. Change your routine.
4. Spend time doing things you love every day. 5. Take care of your body. Exercise. Get out. Get Moving. Connect with Nature and get the heart rate up. Eat healthy food and stay hydrated.
6. Surround yourself with motivated people. We become like who we spend most time with.
7. Think positively. When you think you can, you can. When you think you can’t you’re right.
8. Be a life-long learner. Read or do courses. When we keep learning we discover new things to be interested in daily. We connect the dots differently. The more expertise and knowledge we have, the more we have to share and the more in demand we are.
9. Laugh daily. Goals are important but enjoying the moment is too.
10.Help others. Helping others grounds us, clarifies our strengths and blessings in life and makes us feel good.
11.Practice daily meditation. Meditation is a practice that connects you to the deepest part of yourself. It is also a practise that trains you to focus. A regular practise will show you when something is not quite right or working for you. And Focus and connection together create and sustain mojo.
Having mojo or not having it is the difference between thriving and surviving at a consciousness level. If yours is low, work to increase it. If it is high live a life that keeps it so.
Just to make sure that you like it, that it looks good on you, and to see how many days it takes to fade. For example I had the spray done two days before the wedding and on the wedding day it was a perfect glow. You might not like the colour, the feel of it, or the scent, so it’s very wise to do a test run first.
Some people asked what products I used. The spray tan was Vita Liberta. The exfoliator and moisturiser that I used were a lovely Irish made range. They are made with stimulating seaweed extracts. I used the Seavite Illuminating and Firming Body Exfoliator. I also used Seavite Firming and Toning Body Lotion, this nourishes even the driest of skins and is suitable for sensitive skin. They’re beautiful products.
After the wedding I kept my tan topped up with Organic Lavera Self-Tanning Lotion. I had also experimented with this before the wedding and liked the colour and natural looking glow it had on my skin.
So there you have it, my self-tanning wedding experiment concluded. I might never have another one in my life, but at least I know what to expect if I change my mind. And of course my daughter looked absolutely beautiful, and we all had a wonderful day. It was perfect.