Build­ing con­fi­dence re­quires ef­fort

The Sligo Champion - - LIFESTYLE - CALODAGH MCCU­MISKEY’S Calodagh McCu­miskey designs and de­liv­ers be­spoke well­be­ing at work pro­grammes to grow peo­ple and com­pa­nies. She also of­fers reg­u­lar med­i­ta­tion classes, per­sonal de­vel­op­ment work­shops and well­be­ing con­sul­ta­tions to help peo­ple thrive

Con­fi­dence is de­fined as a feel­ing or be­lief that one can have faith in or rely on some­one or some­thing.

When we have con­fi­dence in our­selves we can rely on our­selves to be who we want to be and be our best and true self in any sit­u­a­tion. This takes con­sis­tent ef­fort and is a way of liv­ing life that in­volves be­ing present and will­ing to move in and out of your com­fort zones as life de­mands.

The process of build­ing con­fi­dence in our­selves or in oth­ers – in our work team, fam­ily, sports club or any group we are in­volved in is two-fold. It in­volves get­ting rid of neg­a­tive thoughts or lim­it­ing be­liefs that make us think less of our­selves, our abil­i­ties and oth­ers or cre­ates or re­in­forces blocks and tak­ing pos­i­tive ac­tions to over­come fear and be who you want to be in all sit­u­a­tions.

Con­fi­dent peo­ple in­spire con­fi­dence in oth­ers: their friends, fam­ily, col­leagues, clients and bosses. And through be­ing con­fi­dent in them­selves, they gain the con­fi­dence of oth­ers and achieve suc­cess.

Con­fi­dence is some­thing that can be learned and built. Ev­ery­one wins when peo­ple de­velop con­fi­dence. Buidling Self- Con­fi­dence To build self-con­fi­dence, look at, and ad­dress SelfDoubt. Ac­cept and look at your Lim­i­ta­tions. Main­tain­ing Con­fi­dence re­quires con­stant ef­fort. When we do a lit­tle of what we fear and live in the mo­ment and rise to the oc­ca­sion as re­quired, con­fi­dence nat­u­rally arises. It is never ar­ro­gant. A truly con­fi­dent per­son will al­ways be hum­ble as they are merely en­gaged in the mo­ment and al­ways en­gaged in the learn­ing process mov­ing in and out of com­fort zones as sit­u­a­tions and life re­quires. Con­fi­dence is built on ac­com­plish­ment and con­fi­dent peo­ple deal with life as it is and get things done. Through achieve­ment of small goals and daily steps we make big­ger goals pos­si­ble. Con­fi­dent peo­ple gen­er­ally have strong val­ues they live by. They do things that are not just in their per­sonal in­ter­est but be­cause it the best or right thing to do in a mo­ment even if it costs them per­son­ally.

Ex­er­cise and self-care help with con­fi­dence as they pre­pare us to be healthy and ready for the de­mand­ing sit­u­a­tions life some­times brings. It is im­por­tant to be ready to fail – and re­alise there re­ally is no such thing. There is ei­ther suc­cess or learn­ing. Self-be­lief is key when try­ing new things. Think long-term. The price of long-term ful­fil­ment is short-term dis­com­fort, hard work and ris­ing to chal­lenge.

Build­ing Con­fi­dence in oth­ers and teams

When we want to build and in­spire con­fi­dence in oth­ers, it is im­por­tant to be open to give praise when praise is due. Con­nect, make eye con­tact, de­velop rap­port and show you care. We do this through show­ing re­spect and lis­ten­ing. Al­ways be en­cour­ag­ing, un­der­stand­ing and quick to for­give. Gos­sip un­der­mines re­la­tion­ships and teams. Don’t do it and don’t en­cour­age or lis­ten to it. Share in­for­ma­tion. De­fine re­spon­si­bil­i­ties and take re­spon­si­bil­ity. Ad­dress con­flict, al­low dis­agree­ment and com­mit to so­lu­tions and work­ing to­gether. Al­ways en­cour­age ef­fort and courage and never judge. Al­ways fol­low through and be im­pec­ca­ble in your word as ac­tion gives peo­ple con­fi­dence in you and what you are do­ing strength­en­ing your re­la­tion­ships and the over­all team con­fi­dence.

Con­fi­dence is an easy word to write and say but re­quires con­stant ef­fort and work. Peo­ple who are truly con­fi­dent are keenly aware of the ef­fort it takes to push your­self out of com­fort zone day to day and mo­ment to mo­ment. Achiev­ing Big goals re­quires big sac­ri­fices which are built on smaller sac­ri­fices and cre­ate long-term hap­pi­ness, con­fi­dence and suc­cess.

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