‘i helped my husband discover he was gay’
All Woman. of his sex. To this end, sex therapist Dr Sydney Mcgill said that some men use relationships and sometimes even marry women as a cover for their relationships with other men.
“Homosexuality is largely seen as an act against nature and ideal masculinity and therefore is publicly scorned. Men, therefore, try to walk the straight and narrow path of heterosexuality, even if they have regular homoerotic thoughts. They feel that they are straight as an arrow as long as they do not act on these thoughts,” Dr Mcgill explained.
So do you suspect that your boyfriend or husband is gay, or at the very least bi-curious? Dr Mcgill said the only way to be sure is if he tells you, or, of course, if you catch him in the act. However, there are few anecdotal signs (which should be taken with a grain of salt) that may tell if your partner’s sexual preference is with men on the down low.
He rarely initiates sexual intercourse with you
depression, but things never improve even when he claims to be getting help. If anything, he seems to be fronting having a sexual connection with you. Also, you may realise that his tool takes a while to get into action and it may even seem like he is burdened especially if you are the one who initiates sex.
He is doing less manly things
When you check, his social media accounts are populated with more than 80 per cent men, and they are usually very attractive. Also, when you check the conversations, he not only seems to be flirting with the men, but conversations with women are light and casual.
He wants to change sex up a bit
He said that he wants to make sex exciting, but you realise that most of what he wants to include is about the butt, and more specifically, his butt. He may also say that he is bored with your current sex positions, or hints that your vagina is ‘too loose’ in an attempt to try more risqué positions.
He is unbelievably faithful
We all want a faithful man, and they exist, but this man seems overly faithful and you may have been thanking God for sending this one. Chances are you haven’t heard him talk to any women, seen any texts from any other woman, don’t see him hanging out with women except for work purposes, or see or hear about him checking out other women because his interest lies elsewhere. He doesn’t show interest in any other woman but you, yet he will go on and on about male athletes and actors and even his friends.
thoughts, skills and resources towards a mutual benefit. It becomes very frustrating when only one partner is exerting all the effort and the other partner is cruising along with no precise direction or goal.
The truth is, if you don’t have that serious heart to heart conversation, not an argument, at the beginning of the year, chances are you will go through another year making little or no progress regarding the growth and development of the relationship.
Let your partner know what your expectations are and that you are not prepared to bring any dead weight into the New Year. All the best.
Wayne Powell is a relationship counsellor. Write to [email protected] Check his Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/ Mftcounselor/
E had just put our baby to bed and were having the last of the New Year’s wine a year ago, when my husband opened up about his childhood,” Moya B told “It was the first time he was being so detailled, but I guess the alcohol loosened him up, and he started talking. That’s when I learned about the abuse, parental neglect, the sense of abandonment he still feels, and a teenaged sexual experience with a male neighbour, where he wasn’t sure if he liked it or not.”