‘i helped my hus­band dis­cover he was gay’

Daily Observer (Jamaica) - - ALL WOMEN -

All Woman. of his sex. To this end, sex therapist Dr Syd­ney Mcgill said that some men use re­la­tion­ships and some­times even marry women as a cover for their re­la­tion­ships with other men.

“Ho­mo­sex­u­al­ity is largely seen as an act against na­ture and ideal mas­culin­ity and there­fore is pub­licly scorned. Men, there­fore, try to walk the straight and nar­row path of het­ero­sex­u­al­ity, even if they have reg­u­lar ho­mo­erotic thoughts. They feel that they are straight as an ar­row as long as they do not act on these thoughts,” Dr Mcgill ex­plained.

So do you sus­pect that your boyfriend or hus­band is gay, or at the very least bi-cu­ri­ous? Dr Mcgill said the only way to be sure is if he tells you, or, of course, if you catch him in the act. How­ever, there are few anec­do­tal signs (which should be taken with a grain of salt) that may tell if your part­ner’s sex­ual pref­er­ence is with men on the down low.

He rarely ini­ti­ates sex­ual in­ter­course with you

de­pres­sion, but things never im­prove even when he claims to be get­ting help. If any­thing, he seems to be fronting hav­ing a sex­ual con­nec­tion with you. Also, you may re­alise that his tool takes a while to get into ac­tion and it may even seem like he is bur­dened es­pe­cially if you are the one who ini­ti­ates sex.

He is do­ing less manly things

When you check, his so­cial me­dia ac­counts are pop­u­lated with more than 80 per cent men, and they are usu­ally very at­trac­tive. Also, when you check the con­ver­sa­tions, he not only seems to be flirt­ing with the men, but con­ver­sa­tions with women are light and ca­sual.

He wants to change sex up a bit

He said that he wants to make sex ex­cit­ing, but you re­alise that most of what he wants to in­clude is about the butt, and more specif­i­cally, his butt. He may also say that he is bored with your cur­rent sex po­si­tions, or hints that your vagina is ‘too loose’ in an at­tempt to try more risqué po­si­tions.

He is un­be­liev­ably faith­ful

We all want a faith­ful man, and they ex­ist, but this man seems overly faith­ful and you may have been thank­ing God for send­ing this one. Chances are you haven’t heard him talk to any women, seen any texts from any other woman, don’t see him hang­ing out with women ex­cept for work pur­poses, or see or hear about him check­ing out other women be­cause his in­ter­est lies else­where. He doesn’t show in­ter­est in any other woman but you, yet he will go on and on about male ath­letes and ac­tors and even his friends.

thoughts, skills and re­sources to­wards a mu­tual ben­e­fit. It be­comes very frus­trat­ing when only one part­ner is ex­ert­ing all the ef­fort and the other part­ner is cruising along with no pre­cise di­rec­tion or goal.

The truth is, if you don’t have that se­ri­ous heart to heart con­ver­sa­tion, not an ar­gu­ment, at the be­gin­ning of the year, chances are you will go through an­other year mak­ing lit­tle or no progress re­gard­ing the growth and de­vel­op­ment of the re­la­tion­ship.

Let your part­ner know what your ex­pec­ta­tions are and that you are not pre­pared to bring any dead weight into the New Year. All the best.

Wayne Pow­ell is a re­la­tion­ship coun­sel­lor. Write to [email protected] Check his Face­book page at https://www.face­book.com/ Mft­coun­selor/

E had just put our baby to bed and were hav­ing the last of the New Year’s wine a year ago, when my hus­band opened up about his child­hood,” Moya B told “It was the first time he was be­ing so de­tailled, but I guess the al­co­hol loos­ened him up, and he started talk­ing. That’s when I learned about the abuse, parental ne­glect, the sense of aban­don­ment he still feels, and a teenaged sex­ual ex­pe­ri­ence with a male neigh­bour, where he wasn’t sure if he liked it or not.”

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