Jamaica Gleaner


- Sex · Relationships & Sex · Costa Rica

Q Good day to you, Doc. I am a hap­pily mar­ried woman, or I was un­til last week. I love my hus­band, but he is away on busi­ness at times and that leaves me lonely and sex­u­ally frus­trated.

One evening last week while he was abroad, a male col­league of his came by say­ing he had to drop off some pa­pers for my hus­band to sign on his re­turn. This man is charm­ing, and he men­tioned that he was thirsty, so I of­fered him some cof­fee.

But then he said with a smile: “Wait a minute. I’ve got some­thing bet­ter.” He reached into his bag and brought out a cold bot­tle of cham­pagne. He in­sisted I have some. I did and it tasted real nice and we chat­ted a lit­tle.

An hour or so later, I be­gan to feel dizzy, so I laid down on the couch, and he came over and kissed me. I seemed to be un­able to stop. In no time, he had got half of my clothes off.

I was pas­sion­ately ex­cited by all this. For­tu­nately, I got my­self to­gether just in time. I must be hon­est and tell you that, at that point, I had just let him put his or­gan in­side me. Thank heav­ens, I took a deep breath and told him: “No way!” He did not or­gasm un­til he was out­side.

Sev­eral things are con­cern­ing me, Doc­tor. I can­not sleep at nights be­cause I am wor­ried.

First, do you think the cham­pagne was drugged? I cer­tainly seemed to have be­come dozy soon af­ter drink­ing.

Sec­ond, could I have got preg­nant? My pe­riod is due next week. Third, is there any chance he could have given me a sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted in­fec­tion (STI)? I would be grate­ful for your pro­fes­sional opin­ion.

A Well, it is ob­vi­ous that this man came around with the in­ten­tion of se­duc­ing you. Oth­er­wise, why would he have had a chilled bot­tle of cham­pagne?

But as to whether it was ‘spiked’ with a drug, that is another mat­ter. In fact, it would be dif­fi­cult to slip a ‘date rape’ chem­i­cal into a bot­tle of cham­pagne be­cause it is care­fully sealed. As you know, it opens with a ‘pop’. And I do not think that any­one could get any­thing into it be­fore.

How­ever, I have to ad­mit that he could have slipped some drug into your glass. That would not be hard to do. Also, once the bot­tle had been opened, he could have put some­thing into that.

But re­ally, the only ev­i­dence of ‘drug­ging’ which you have is that, af­ter around an hour of drink­ing cham­pagne, you started to feel sleepy and also quite raunchy. For many peo­ple, that would be quite a nor­mal re­ac­tion to drink­ing ‘fizz’.

If, by any chance, you still have the un­washed glasses and the cham­pagne bot­tle, it would be pos­si­ble for the po­lice to have them tested for drugs.

Turn­ing to your next ques­tion, it is cer­tainly pos­si­ble. But you seem to be pretty sure that he did not ‘dis­charge’ un­til af­ter he pulled out. So the odds are against preg­nancy. But you will just have to wait and see.

Your fi­nal ques­tion asked whether he could have given you a sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted in­fec­tion is cer­tainly pos­si­ble. Now what seems to me a point of con­sid­er­able im­por­tance is this: Should you tell your hus­band?

Frankly, I think you should. He and this man are col­leagues, so they are bound to meet each other. Maybe they are friends, or ri­vals. Who knows? The other man might even try to in­vite him­self round again as a guest.

This is go­ing to be a very dif­fi­cult con­ver­sa­tion be­tween you and your spouse. But if you ex­plain to him that you were fud­dled and ‘woozy’, I re­ally hope he will see that what hap­pened was mostly the fault of this man. The two of you should de­cide calmly re­gard­ing what ac­tion, if any, you should take about this rather dan­ger­ous man.

And what­ever you do, don’t see him again.

Wor­ried about Vi­a­gra side ef­fects

Q I have been us­ing Vi­a­gra for about two months with con­sid­er­able suc­cess. But yesterday some­thing alarm­ing hap­pened. I was due to visit my girl­friend in Port An­to­nio, so I took a Vi­a­gra tablet on the way. But when I got there, her hus­band was sit­ting out­side on the ter­race, drink­ing cof­fee. So my ro­man­tic plan for that af­ter­noon was squashed. I just waved them good­bye, and drove away.

But will tak­ing the Vi­a­gra with­out hav­ing sex harm me? Per­haps I should have mas­tur­bated, to re­lease the ten­sion.

A Quite a few men think that, if they take a Vi­a­gra, they must have sex. This is not true.

The ef­fect of the Vi­a­gra will just wear off in four hours and that will be the end of the mat­ter. No harm will be done to the health.

Seems like you are liv­ing a lit­tle dan­ger­ously while on your vis­its to Port An­to­nio. May I ad­vise you to re­view your ar­range­ment with this mar­ried woman?

Am I too old for ‘the Jab’?

Q I am 38 and I am think­ing of try­ing the in­jec­tion. Can a per­son my age go on ‘the Jab’?

A If your doc­tor thinks you have no con­traindi­ca­tions, there is no rea­son why you should not try it out, but please re­mem­ber that ‘the shot’ can cause: Ab­sent menses, heavy or ir­reg­u­lar menses; De­layed re­turn of fer­til­ity af­ter stop­ping the in­jec­tions. Also, kindly note that there are some con­cerns about the pos­si­bil­ity that the shot can cause thin­ning of women’s bones and, there­fore, frac­tures later in life.

Bumps on penis af­ter cir­cum­ci­sion

Q Years ago, I got my­self cir­cum­cised in Costa Rica. I don’t think it was done very well.

Now I have lit­tle ‘bumps’ on my penis. These kind of get in the way dur­ing sex. Also, I do not think women like them. Your ad­vice, please.

A These are prob­a­bly ‘keloids’ which are firm lumps that of­ten form in scar tis­sue.

I am a lit­tle sur­prised that you say that women do not like them. Gen­er­ally, women are not very in­ter­ested in such mat­ters.

A urol­o­gist or a plas­tic sur­geon can re­move them for you. But note that when a man has bumps re­moved from his penis, that does not au­to­mat­i­cally make his sex life bet­ter.

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