DEAR DOC: DID HE DRUG MY CHAMPAGNE?
Q Good day to you, Doc. I am a happily married woman, or I was until last week. I love my husband, but he is away on business at times and that leaves me lonely and sexually frustrated.
One evening last week while he was abroad, a male colleague of his came by saying he had to drop off some papers for my husband to sign on his return. This man is charming, and he mentioned that he was thirsty, so I offered him some coffee.
But then he said with a smile: “Wait a minute. I’ve got something better.” He reached into his bag and brought out a cold bottle of champagne. He insisted I have some. I did and it tasted real nice and we chatted a little.
An hour or so later, I began to feel dizzy, so I laid down on the couch, and he came over and kissed me. I seemed to be unable to stop. In no time, he had got half of my clothes off.
I was passionately excited by all this. Fortunately, I got myself together just in time. I must be honest and tell you that, at that point, I had just let him put his organ inside me. Thank heavens, I took a deep breath and told him: “No way!” He did not orgasm until he was outside.
Several things are concerning me, Doctor. I cannot sleep at nights because I am worried.
First, do you think the champagne was drugged? I certainly seemed to have become dozy soon after drinking.
Second, could I have got pregnant? My period is due next week. Third, is there any chance he could have given me a sexually transmitted infection (STI)? I would be grateful for your professional opinion.
A Well, it is obvious that this man came around with the intention of seducing you. Otherwise, why would he have had a chilled bottle of champagne?
But as to whether it was ‘spiked’ with a drug, that is another matter. In fact, it would be difficult to slip a ‘date rape’ chemical into a bottle of champagne because it is carefully sealed. As you know, it opens with a ‘pop’. And I do not think that anyone could get anything into it before.
However, I have to admit that he could have slipped some drug into your glass. That would not be hard to do. Also, once the bottle had been opened, he could have put something into that.
But really, the only evidence of ‘drugging’ which you have is that, after around an hour of drinking champagne, you started to feel sleepy and also quite raunchy. For many people, that would be quite a normal reaction to drinking ‘fizz’.
If, by any chance, you still have the unwashed glasses and the champagne bottle, it would be possible for the police to have them tested for drugs.
Turning to your next question, it is certainly possible. But you seem to be pretty sure that he did not ‘discharge’ until after he pulled out. So the odds are against pregnancy. But you will just have to wait and see.
Your final question asked whether he could have given you a sexually transmitted infection is certainly possible. Now what seems to me a point of considerable importance is this: Should you tell your husband?
Frankly, I think you should. He and this man are colleagues, so they are bound to meet each other. Maybe they are friends, or rivals. Who knows? The other man might even try to invite himself round again as a guest.
This is going to be a very difficult conversation between you and your spouse. But if you explain to him that you were fuddled and ‘woozy’, I really hope he will see that what happened was mostly the fault of this man. The two of you should decide calmly regarding what action, if any, you should take about this rather dangerous man.
And whatever you do, don’t see him again.
Worried about Viagra side effects
Q I have been using Viagra for about two months with considerable success. But yesterday something alarming happened. I was due to visit my girlfriend in Port Antonio, so I took a Viagra tablet on the way. But when I got there, her husband was sitting outside on the terrace, drinking coffee. So my romantic plan for that afternoon was squashed. I just waved them goodbye, and drove away.
But will taking the Viagra without having sex harm me? Perhaps I should have masturbated, to release the tension.
A Quite a few men think that, if they take a Viagra, they must have sex. This is not true.
The effect of the Viagra will just wear off in four hours and that will be the end of the matter. No harm will be done to the health.
Seems like you are living a little dangerously while on your visits to Port Antonio. May I advise you to review your arrangement with this married woman?
Am I too old for ‘the Jab’?
Q I am 38 and I am thinking of trying the injection. Can a person my age go on ‘the Jab’?
A If your doctor thinks you have no contraindications, there is no reason why you should not try it out, but please remember that ‘the shot’ can cause: Absent menses, heavy or irregular menses; Delayed return of fertility after stopping the injections. Also, kindly note that there are some concerns about the possibility that the shot can cause thinning of women’s bones and, therefore, fractures later in life.
Bumps on penis after circumcision
Q Years ago, I got myself circumcised in Costa Rica. I don’t think it was done very well.
Now I have little ‘bumps’ on my penis. These kind of get in the way during sex. Also, I do not think women like them. Your advice, please.
A These are probably ‘keloids’ which are firm lumps that often form in scar tissue.
I am a little surprised that you say that women do not like them. Generally, women are not very interested in such matters.
A urologist or a plastic surgeon can remove them for you. But note that when a man has bumps removed from his penis, that does not automatically make his sex life better.