What can we do?

WE NEED to create a space where our children will talk to us. Too often, children are only hearing commands from adults – sit down, be quiet, take up your book. How much are we listening to our children daily? They will only feel free to communicate when something is wrong if they are already in the habit of sharing their thoughts freely. Sometimes children will drop a hint to see how it’s taken before they fully disclose.

We need to believe our children. It can be hard to hear something painful or hard to hear that someone we trust is harming a child. But we cannot dismiss any accusation. Find out what’s happening. Protect your child.

We need to empower our children to protect themselves. It is never too early to model and teach children that their bodies are their own and that they can choose who they want to hug, kiss, touch. Teach them that it is okay to say no and that adults must respect that.

If you or anyone you know has been a victim, seek professional help. Though there are many negative consequences that can occur from being violated if left untreated, there is great potential for overcoming the shame, anger, or apathy with help.

PROGRESS MONITORED

If it is observed that a child who has experienced sexual abuse is underachieving academically, then efforts should be made to have him/her assessed at the Mico Child Assessment Centre. Any recommendations for remedial intervention and/or special education should be implemented. Subsequently, the child’s progress, or lack thereof, should be closely monitored by all stakeholders such as parents, teachers, guidance counsellors, coaches/extra-curricular instructors and church workers.

Your child can be helped. All is not lost.