YL:WOULD YOU RATHER
SUMMER IS fast approaching and I know that plans to ensure that it is well spent are already under way. All this just begs the question: How do you see yourself this coming summer?
Your family wants to go overseas for a vacation and you are expected to join them. However, this would mean leaving your friends and all the fun they will be having while you are away. Would you rather go out of the country on the trip with your family, or let them go without you so you and your friends can enjoy all the excitement that this summer will, hopefully, have to offer?
Go with family – 40% Stay with friends – 60%
“This is a hard one; choosing friends over family will look bad but, on the other hand, it’s not really a contest, is it (LOL)? So, I would say turn up with my friends this summer. Summer is really long, but the party season isn’t, so the ‘fam’ vacation can always still happen if it is they can put it off for a couple of weeks.” (Abygail, 18)
“Is this even a hard choice? Of course I’m going on my family vacation! Most of my friends go to same school as me, so I’ll see them there all the time. But getting time from my parents, seeing as though they work, is very rare and precious so, hands down, family vacation for me!” (Cassandra, 16)
Your significant other’s birthday is this Saturday and you want to spend it with him/her, but your best friend is also celebrating hers on the same day. Would you rather choose between the two, knowing that the other would be disappointed, but play it off so you don’t feel bad, or make a party of it and try to include both without the division that could lead to hurt feelings?
Choose one – 30% Make both happy – 70%
“Really wouldn’t want any feelings getting hurt, so I think I’d go with option B, making them feel special and understand that they are both equally important to me. I don’t like complications, so I would steer clear of anything that could cause that.” (Shanice, 17)
“Let’s say I did go with the first option, they would have to understand that not because I’m not spending that time with them, specifically, that doesn’t make them any less significant to me it. It just simply means it is my choice and they, as the closest people to me, should understand that as much.” (Nellie, 18)
Your good friend has a very important exam in the coming weeks that will determine if he/she will have to go to summer school. He/She has asked you for help in terms of studying and praparing for the exam, but you have your own personal problems going through at the moment and don’t think you can take on any added stress. Would you rather put aside your problems and help your friend to pass the exam, so he/she will not have to suffer for the entire summer in a classroom, or drown in your own feelings and let your friend sort him/herself out?
Drown in feelings – 50% Help regardless – 50%
“Being caught up in feelings has nothing to do with not being able to help a friend in serious need. Who knows, maybe helping them would take your mind off your problems long enough to actually find solutions in dealing with them properly.” (Natasha, 16)
“Going through personal problems, I shouldn’t be able to cope properly let alone help someone else in need, friend or no friend; and if we are friends, they would and should understand also. I could maybe help to some extent, but let me offer, don’t ask, that’ll just add [to my stress].” (Andrew, 18)