Does he love me?
Q Do you think that a boy in Havendale loves me, Doc? I am 16 and he is 18. A couple of months back, he came to a party my mother organised at my house.
Somehow, we both slipped out into the garden and started kissing. He pressed my back against an old lemon tree and I let him put his penis into me. I felt it take away my virginity, Doc.
Afterwards, he kissed me and told me that I was a lovely, beautiful girl. I began to feel that, perhaps, he loved me. Then we went back into the party and he danced with me several times until it was time for him to go home.
The next day, I asked my mom about him. She told me he was the son of one of her best friends. She said he was a nice boy.
Well, after that, I began to have dreams about marrying him one day. He has now been to our house several times with his mother, mainly to help with charity functions. He always smiles at me warmly and tells me how good looking I am. Twice, he has ‘snatched’ a kiss with me when neither of our mothers was looking. You obviously have a lot of experience in these things, Doc. Do you think that this boy loves me? Do I have any prospects of a long-term future with him? A Oh dear, oh dear! Like many teenage girls, you have allowed yourself to be carried away by romantic dreams. Look, you have absolutely no evidence that this young guy loves you. Alas, again and again female teenagers get the idea that because a male has had sex with them, that must mean love! Unfortunately, it doesn’t. You see, a lot of young guys would cheerfully have sex with any girl, if it was available. If a girl is seduced by a young man, that does not mean that the boy must love her. It is just possible that the two of you might end up dating one day, especially as your moms are so close, and your mother likes this boy. But please don’t rush into it. And please don’t give him sex any more! One good thing: you make no mention of your menses being overdue, so it seems like you have been lucky enough to avoid pregnancy. Please don’t take the risk again!