Finding love in the right places.

IT HAS been talked about, sung about, and preached about: the beauty of marriage. It’ s an institution where the union, joined together by love, under God, is sealed with a promise of a lifetime of support and companionship. It is an institution publicly lauded by society and church folk alike.

Yet, often neglected is the fact that single, unmarried Christians need love, too.

Though some churches spend little to no time acknowledging the reality, there are those who educate its members on the importance of ‘godly dating’.

Amoy Adams, whose word ministry operates under the moniker The Anointed Writer, a title she said was given to her by God, said that in her opinion, godly dating is the process of getting to know someone with the intention of marrying them. “This process is mandator y, purposeful, and holy and should be experienced carefully as the main aim is to establish a strong, godly marriage,” she said.

Adams noted that the process is both spiritual and physical.

According t o her: “Godly dating is to ensure that the union we are getting into is purposed by God and that both persons understand the purpose of the union and their role therein – spiritual.

“Physically, it is to ensure that both persons are on the same page in all areas (finances, desire for children, etc) but with a godly/Kingdom perspective, which means God as guide and nothing is done prematurely or solely to satisfy sexual desire.”

Adams revealed that three years ago, she had gone ahead of God and chose her own ‘future husband’, a choice she was made to regret.

Now going through the process of godly dating, she is keen on sharing a few lessons that she has learnt along the way.

“I couldn’t stand him. He was annoying to me and didn’t seem like someone I would be interested in on any level, so I ignored him, but somehow I kept running into him. I couldn’t shake the guy, but he was never etched in my mind as someone of importance,” she said.

However, following the submission of her life to Christ and the revelation of His plans for her, things started to fall into place.

“The man I met and was led to build with two years ago wasn’t half the man he is today. He wasn’t spiritually mature. He didn’t have all the money in the world, but we were compatible, and we connected on a spiritual level. God ordained it, and He has been showing up and showing off ever since,” Adams said.