‘This­tles and thorns’

Dor­cas Dob­son shares se­crets of 67 years of mar­riage

Jamaica Gleaner - - NEWS - Ja­son Cross/Gleaner Writer ja­[email protected]­erjm.com

DOR­CAS ESTELLA Dob­son has de­scribed her mar­riage of 67 years as one filled with this­tles and thorns, but it was her de­ter­mi­na­tion to live by the vow she made with the man she loves that helped to keep the re­la­tion­ship in check.

The el­derly woman and her hus­band, Seib­ert Au­gus­tus Dob­son, will cel­e­brate their wed­ding an­niver­sary on De­cem­ber 12.

The cou­ple were guests at the prime min­is­ter’s treat for se­nior ci­ti­zens on Thurs­day at Ja­maica House in St An­drew. The func­tion also served well for teams from the Na­tional Iden­ti­fi­ca­tion Sys­tem and the Regis­trar Gen­eral’s Depart­ment, reg­is­ter­ing many of those in at­ten­dance who have never had birth cer­tifi­cates.

Dor­cas told The Gleaner that lack of re­spect in re­la­tion­ships as well as other women prey­ing on hus­bands are fac­tors that con­trib­ute to mar­riages not last­ing th­ese days.

“When you marry early, that is this­tles and thorns. You have most trou­ble at that time be­cause ev­ery­body wants your hus­band. I had trou­ble with him, inuh, but I tell ev­ery­body seh mi naa lef my hus­band. A me an him go be­fore par­son,” she de­clared.

“You have to be strong on your feet, and you must learn to for­give. If you even go out and see your hus­band talk­ing to some­body, you must not in­sult him.”

DON’T WATCH YOUR MAN

Dor­cas ad­vised that chil­dren should never wit­ness par­ents curs­ing each other.

“You have to wait un­til you calm to talk, and hus­band and wife must ad­mit to their wrongs. When I am up­set, I don’t talk to him at that time be­cause you don’t know what the chil­dren might hear,” she said.

Dor­cas is also en­cour­ag­ing young cou­ples to al­ways bring home some­thing for their spouses.

“If is even a sweetie, is a good prac­tice,” she quipped. The 91-year-old is also ad­vis­ing wives not to watch their hus­bands.

“If he goes to a party, I don’t watch him. He gets to dance with who he wants and vice versa. You will never get away from some men cheat­ing. If a man don’t cheat, there is some­thing sneaky about him, but once you find out, he should not go back with that per­son. He doesn’t ar­gue with me,” she told The Gleaner. Her hus­band, Seib­ert, who is blind, re­counted with laugh­ter that from the start of their re­la­tion­ship and mar­riage, he grew very at­tached to Dor­cas, “with no hope of es­cap­ing”.

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Dor­cas Estella Dob­son and her hus­band, Seib­ert, are cel­e­brat­ing 67 years of mar­riage.

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