COMPASSION AND ITS CHARACTERISTICS

Compassionate love is categorised less by intense emotions and more by trust, security, intimacy, and commitment. Those who make it to this point tend to be a lot more individualised, all while still contributing to the growth of the relationship. It does not mean that the passion is gone. It is still very much present but in a more levelheaded way. Are you in this seat? Here are the telltales:

■ Trust: Compassionate love manifests itself with deep trust in each other. Knowing for a fact that when you need them the most, they will show up for you in any which way you need them to.

■ Long haul: Patience, kindness, endurance, and humility. All of these qualities are exercised with your companion, and because of that, you can weather any storm and make it to old age sipping coffee together on the porch while the grandchildren play.

■ Intimacy: Being able to share every aspect of yourself with each other extends far beyond hot bodies pressed together. Mutual sharing of feelings and deepest worries form the chief cornerstone in any compassionate relationship.

To achieve this level of security in your relationship, it is dependent on timing. Both parties have to be in the same state of ‘readiness’ to love and be loved. If it is that one or both parties is unsure, the chances of compassionate love are less likely.

Which stage are you at in your relationship? How is the experience for you? Send your experiences to lifestyle@gleanerjm.com.