Think my young wife has another man

Dear Pastor, I am 55, and I am having a problem with my wife. I took her and schooled her when she was young. We have two children together.

We went away, but we agreed that I would return home and set things in place because I did not intend to live forever abroad.

I built a three-bedroom house on my parents’ land. My sister is in a good job, and she has taken care of the home in which we grew up.

She is not married, but she has taken care of nieces and nephews. She lives there at the house.

My wife came to Jamaica while I was building the house. She even chose the fixtures for the house.

The house has been finished for two years now, and my wife is now saying that she doesn’t want to come back to live on family land.

She did not say that to me while we were making plans to build the house, Dear K.T, Listen, my friend, don’t push her to come home, and do not try to find another place to buy.

The little money that you might have, keep that money to support yourself. If she is not coming, you may have to ask your sister to give you a room in your parents’ house for you to live quietly and in peace. You may rent out your new house and get an income from it.

Brother, don’t fret yourself to death over your wife, even if you were to hear that she has another man. Don’t let it get to your head. Stress can kill you.

It is natural for you to think that something has gone wrong and she is seeing another man. But you have no proof, so leave it alone. and when she came and saw the house, she told me how much she liked it. But, all of a sudden, she doesn’t want to live here.

I suspect that she has found another man in the US.

Now, suddenly my family is her problem? This is my place. It is big enough for us and the children, but I don’t expect the children to live here.

They may come and spend holidays. But this house is for me and wife. I told her to tell me

the truth. She said she doesn’t have another man. How am I now going to live without a woman? My sister is older than I, and there are only three of us. I have a brother who is living in England. He said he’s not coming back to live in Jamaica. I didn’t get married to get a divorce. I am a church man. Do you think my wife has found another man? She told me that I am asking her these questions because I might have plans to look for another woman. That was never in my plans. She will be in Jamaica in December. I hope that when she comes, we will be able to see you. Keep up the good work. K.T.