Should I wait for this man?

Dear Pastor,

I am 24 years old. My babyfather is 28. We have been in this relationship for close to nine years now. It all happened when we moved to live in the country.

He met in an accident, and so he stayed in the hospital for three months. When he was released, I was there for him but he was to and from country and town.

I then decided to stay with my cousin in Ocho Rios, where I started working as a bartender.

He didn’t like it, but I didn’t stop. I told him to leave me alone and then I started to avoid him for four months. He then started over with a new person.

I begged him to take me back and that I would not leave him again. I told him about the affairs I had and he still worked it out with me. That was in 2017.

Last year, I moved out and was staying with his cousin in the same building. At times, my babyfather can be a pain in the ass, but he’s a good man.

I moved back in, but he and the same person he got involved with in 2017 are back together again. I wanted to work my mistake out because I can’t afford to lose him.

There and then I realised what a good man I had and how much I loved him. He told me to give him time to end the other relationship, but it has been more than six months now and he hasn’t made an effort to stop it.

They are so caught up with each other right now. But, I just need to make it right because I love him so much; I really do.

I will never take him for granted again, but he doesn’t believe me and I don’t blame him because I hurt him more than once.

I have now decided to give my life to God, but I need him to be there with me.

Everyone told me to give it time. He also said I must give him time to heal because I hurt him a lot. All he does is text and concentrate on the other girl.

If she wants to see him, he leaves the house; it doesn’t matter what time of night, he always runs to her.

I want him back. He says he loves me, but he doesn’t want to hurt the other person because he already made her a promise never to hurt her.

I don’t know if I should wait or let go. I have prayed about it and I feel confident about it.

S.S.