My wife is giving me bun in America

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am in my 50s. I got married and I have two children, a girl and a boy. My wife is a nurse. She went away to better her life.

The understanding was that she would come back every six months but the first six months extended to a year. Last year, she did not come to Jamaica at all and I did not fuss over that because of the virus. But relatives have been telling me that my wife has a man in New York. She said I should not believe everything I hear, but my brother-in-law said that he heard that too. But he said I should not make that break up the marriage. He thinks I should find a woman in Jamaica because if she has a man up there, I can’t expect her to not do anything with him. Our children are living with me and I respect them and I have never taken any woman to this house. My daughter has never slept with her boyfriend in this house and I know that she has a boyfriend. When I heard what my brother-inlaw said, I asked my daughter if her mother said anything about having a man in America and she said no, but she would ask her. I told her she should not ask her mother and I left it there. When I got married, it was to death do us part, but if my wife has another man, I would not want her again. I don’t have any woman and it is not that I can’t get one, I am trying to be faithful to my wife. Sometimes I cannot sleep when I think of her having another man. I trusted this woman. What we were earning before she left was enough to pay our bills. Now America is mashing up our lives. My daughter told me that she could see that something was bothering me but I should try to not allow what her mother is doing to affect me so much that I get ill. I write you for your advice.

T.