My cancer-stricken boyfriend wants us to get married

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am in my 40s. I have been living with a man for more than 15 years. He is 10 years older than I am. He only has one daughter. We don’t have children together. His daughter is married and she has two children. We get along very well.

This man has now discovered that he has cancer. He has started to attend church. I don’t know what to do because now that he is ill he wants us to get married. I have a good job and this man doesn’t have to work. He is his own boss. I have not met a more loving man since he has come to realise that he has cancer.

I have a very good friend and she told me that I should try to get this man to transfer everything in my name because evidently, he is going to die. I don’t have the courage to ask him to do that and I think he would be very upset with me. I know he is going to leave this house that we are living in for his daughter and myself, and he has an apartment that he had rented.

I don’t know how he will handle that one. He bought the car that I am driving. I just want to take care of him and I am hoping that he will not die. Would you suggest that we get married as he is asking me to do? Please give me your advice.

R.

Dear R.,

I can tell you without hesitation to accept this man’s proposal. Marry him as soon as possible, but please do not take the advice of your girlfriend to try and get this man to transfer everything he has in your name. You should bear in mind that he has a daughter and grandchildren and you should be satisfied with what he is giving to you. You don’t have to be greedy.

Pastor