Boyfriend called out another girl’s name during sex

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I have a boyfriend. We are living together. He takes care of me but he doesn’t want me to go anywhere without him. Sometimes I think that I am a prisoner but I know I am not a prisoner. He is just jealous. At present, I am pregnant. I didn’t want to get pregnant but it just happened. My boyfriend is 26 years old. As soon as this baby is born, I am going back to school regardless of what my boyfriend says. My boyfriend is so jealous and yet he has another girl. He says that nothing is going on between them anymore but I don’t believe him. Twice he was having sex with me and he called the other girl’s name. When I told him that he called out her name, he denied it. I come from a poor family. My father has nine children and my mother has seven children. My boyfriend pays a partner for me and every time I get my hand I give part of it to my mother. So my mother has never advised me to leave my boyfriend. Like I said, the only problem I have with him is that he does not want me to go anywhere and he is jealous. He is a soldier and many times I am at home alone but I know that his friends who are living in the same yard are watching me, and if I go anywhere, they will tell him. But I told him that nobody has to watch me because I am not a cheater.

My mother told me that my father was always accusing her of cheating but she never did. I did not want to live with a man but conditions at my parents’ house are not good for a young girl. Too many of us have to pack up together. I always wanted to be a teacher. I know it is not too late to become one. What do you think?

K.C.

Dear K.C.,

It is not too late for you to become a teacher so what you should do is to prepare yourself to go to college if you have the number of passes that are required to enter. Your boyfriend is jealous. He has to learn to trust you. Don’t allow that to get you down. Don’t do anything that will make him feel that you can’t be trusted. In the meantime, read a lot and don’t waste too much of your time on social media. Again, read a lot. Although it is better for you to spend time at your parents’ house, perhaps your boyfriend would feel comfortable if he knows that you are there rather than alone at home.

Pastor