WORST LUCK WITH MEN

I am 36. I have had a few lovers, but I do not have children. I have been legally married twice. I have never had a relationship that has lasted for more than three years.

I did not have sex until I graduated from university. My boyfriend did not have to persuade me. I told him that if we had sex he would have to marry me, and he agreed. We got married, and then the most terrible thing happened. I found out that this man was married. I almost died. I told him that I would never forgive him and he said all he wanted to do was to love me and to have sex with a virgin.

I got involved with another man, and he was a nice guy, but immature. I thought I could change him. We got married, but he was unable to get me pregnant. We went to many doctors. His relatives started to call me a mule and when I talked to him, he said he couldn’t stop them. He wasn’t making much money, so I had to pay all the bills. Sometimes I had to work late, while he used to do the cooking. He started to tell me that I should come home earlier. I told him that I will come home earlier when he is able to pay the bills. Everything we talked about, he told his relatives about it. We had a big argument and I called him a ‘maama man’. He left the house and went to stay with his parents. I did a very stupid thing. I called the man who took my virginity. I was crying and he came over, and I ended up in bed with him. I could not believe that I did that. I have been asking myself why I can’t keep a man. I divorced the second guy. I am now living in the USA and I got married again. But this guy just pretended that he loved me. He was involved in drugs, so I became afraid of him. He got involved with one of my friends. I could not deal with it. So we separated, and then I divorced him.

I am now seeing a man who is in his 60s and he is the best man I have ever had. People think that I am with him because of what he can give me, but that is not so. I really love him. He treats me so well. His children also love me. He can give me what I need, and that is plenty of attention. He has the time. I see him every day. He does not like fast food, so I cook for him every weekend. I still have my own apartment. He told me that I should keep it, as long as I want to live alone. He can give me anything that I need. I think I am going to stick with this man. He is very smart. What do you think of this relationship?