NOT SURE ABOUT MY NEW GUY

Dear Pastor,

I met a man who is one year older than I am. So far, I have found him to be very nice. He doesn’t run me down or pressure me for sex. He gives me every little thing I want.

If I ask him for anything and he doesn’t have it right away, he would borrow it and give it to me. I told one of my girlfriends about him and she said that he is not a good man because all policemen are bad men. I did not like what she said and I became fearful and wondered whether he would kill me.

I might sound a little crazy. He treated me well for my birthday too, but I am concerned whether I should give him a chance. I don’t know if he would change, but so far he is OK with me. He is on the road most of the time because of his job, but we talk on the phone every day and video call each other. But I wish I could see him more often. He also works at nights. I like him a lot. I have two children and he has fathered one child.

CONCERNS

My mother told me that no man would want a woman with many children. I am so concerned about that too. We became friends two months ago. Because he is not pressuring me for sex, does that mean that something is wrong? We had sex only once and I enjoyed it. But he sometimes complains that he is tired. Sometimes when we are talking on the phone, he falls asleep. He bought me a watch for my birthday. It cost him $5,000. I told him he should have bought something a little cheaper because he has matters to deal with. He became upset and said that I should be more grateful. He also said

I should not have spoiled my birthday by saying that. Is something wrong in what I said?

Concerned Girlfriend