Cheating husband begged me to come back

Dear Pastor,

I really do need your advice as I have no one to talk to. My husband and I have been married for almost three years but we were together for nine years before marriage.

The problem I am having with this man is that he has stepped out of his marriage. He has cheated on me and disrespected me and he has chosen other people over me. Before we got married he was like that so we separated for about a year. Then he came back to me crying and saying how he wanted his family back with him and he wouldn’t hurt me any more.

Pastor, when I say this man begged me, I mean he was begging me to take him back. So I decided to give him another chance. Then two months later he asked me to marry him and I thought he was a changed man. He did something that I was afraid would happen. Now I don’t know if leaving would be the right thing to do because he is my husband and I love him. But right now I feel like giving up.

E.

Dear E.,

I have observed that at no time did you mention that this man and you have sought professional help. This man did what most men do; they cry and beg pardon for their evil deeds.

And they know that women are moved by the tears of men, especially when they go down on their knees and beg for pardon.

You allowed the tears to move your heart and you married this man. Not long after that, he went back to his wicked ways. Now you are fooling yourself by saying you can’t walk away from him because he is your husband. In other words, you are saying that you would rather die from depression than get away from this man.

I can only say to you, congratulations. Nobody should tell you to leave your man if you do not wish to do so. I can only promise that I will sincerely remember you in my prayers. Bye bye.

Pastor