HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I am pregnant. I got married six months ago to a young man with whom I attended high school. He is a green card holder, but his parents opted for him to complete his high school education in Jamaica.

This guy has always loved me and I always love him. He told me that he would not want me to get involved with any other man. After we graduated from high school, he went to his family in the United States of America.

He came back to Jamaica to marry me. His parents did not have any objection because they knew me for a long time. My parents did not object either, because they saw it as an opportunity for me to migrate and improve my life.

I have always loved nursing, so it is my plan to go to nursing school. I want to be a registered nurse. My mother-in-law told me that she will assist me with the baby. If my mother had a visa, she would be the ideal person, but I know that in the future she may be able to get a visa.

Every time my husband calls, he talks to my mother; he calls her his second mother. She is always warning me not to get involve with crazy men around.

There is a young man who works with the company I am working. He kept telling me that he loves me. He was surprised to see me in maternity clothes. I have never loved this guy. The only love that I have in my heart is for my husband. He sends me money every two weeks, which I use to take care of myself and to give my parents. My husband wanted me to have the baby in the USA, but I do not have my visa, so he plans to come to Jamaica and to be with me for the birth of his child.

I told him he doesn’t have to come because my mother would be with me, and my doctor would deliver the baby. He insists that he would try to be here.

I question my mother more than I question the doctor. My mother said it is a beautiful thing to have a child. She said I would enjoy my first experience of motherhood, though giving birth will be painful. My husband cannot prevent the pains that I will have, even if he comes and be with me.

My husband wants three children; he is from a big family. I only want to have two children, but I will see how I feel after I have this one. Thank you for reading my letter.

Dear A.G.,

I want to wish you well as you look forward to the birth of your first child. You have a very good husband. He is reliable. You also have good parents, and they have tried their best with you. Importantly, they love your husband. They have known him from he was growing up. I can imagine how anxious he is to see his child.

It would have been a great experience for him to be with you while giving birth. If that is not possible, both of you can always look forward for him to be there for your second child.

I hope that not long from now, you will receive your call for an interview at the US Embassy for your visa interview. Try to get as much rest as possible as you look forward to motherhood.