Girl sees red flags in online friendship overseas

DEAR ABBY: I met this guy through a dating site. We began chatting and hit it off. We talk almost every day, and have Skyped a few times. We’ve been getting closer and closer. I really like him, and he has told me he feels the same.

The thing is, I’m not sure if he’s telling me the truth. We live in different countries, and for all I know, he could have a girlfriend and be messing with me. I also don’t know how to tell my parents. They don’t support online dating, and they don’t think I’m ready for a rela- tionship. Please help me. I’m really confused. CHATTING FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY

DEAR CHATTING: It is hard to keep emotions in check and think clearly when the adrenaline is pumping and our hearts are beating a mile a minute.

Because you are a minor, you have to respect your parents’ decisions until such time as they agree you’re ready for a relationship. A way to earn their trust and prove that you are mature enough would be to be honest about what you are doing and thinking, rather than sneak around hoping to slip something by them. When that time comes, finding someone closer to home, somebody you can introduce to them in person will make your life easier. In the meantime, concentrate on school and the opportunities it provides.

DEAR ABBY: My mom recently moved from her home to a memory care facility. While she has no short-term memory left, she’s happy, lighthearted and remembers her life and friends well.

I want to send a short change of address note to people across the country whom my mom has known for the past 70 years, to let them know how to reach her, or that they can drop by if they are in her city. I'm having trouble deciding how much to say and what is appropriate. I read your column daily, and your examples of how to phrase things are smart and spot-on. Please give me some direction. NEEDS GUIDANCE

DEAR NEEDS GUIDANCE: Consider wording your message like this: “I’m writing to let you know that Mom is no longer living in her house on Summerville Place. She recently moved to an assisted living facility called Memory Lane. Her address is —, and her phone number is —. She is happy and lighthearted and remembers you all with great affection. If you are passing through her city, feel free to drop by and visit. I know she would love to see you and reminisce.”