Friend’s new wife over­shares about cou­ple’s mar­ried life

The Korea Times - - HOROSCOPE - By Abi­gail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: My hus­band’s best friend re­mar­ried a cou­ple of years ago, and the new wife, “Jane,” is a hand­ful. When we get to­gether, she’s as free-spir­ited and open as you can get, sex­u­ally. She hangs on her hus­band like a mag­net, grab­bing at him provoca­tively and let­ting ev­ery­one know every­thing about their sex life.

At first it was funny, but it isn’t funny any longer. Frankly, it’s nau­se­at­ing. I would like to get to­gether more of­ten, mi­nus the X-rated show. I’m con­cerned that if I say some­thing, it will cause a ma­jor rift be­tween all of us. I don’t want to keep my hus­band from his best friend. Any ad­vice? — MA­TURE ONE IN IN­DI­ANA

DEAR MA­TURE ONE: When Jane’s be­hav­ior presents it­self, ask her to tone it down be­cause it makes you un­com­fort­able. If that doesn’t work, the only guar­an­teed way for Jane’s an­tics to not bother you will be for you to en­cour­age your hus­band to so­cial­ize sep­a­rately with his best friend so you see Jane as lit­tle as pos­si­ble.

DEAR ABBY: I am a gay man. A few weeks ago, a neigh­bor con­fided to me that her hus­band is ho­mo­pho­bic. When she said he wasn’t com­fort­able around me, I agreed with her that it was best to give them both space and dis­con­tinue our friend­ship. Then her hus­band ap­proached me and apol­o­gized. He told me he is not ho­mo­pho­bic, and he wants to be friends, so I de­cided to for­give.

Lately, he has been try­ing to in­clude me in his friend group within the neigh­bor­hood. I ap­pre­ci­ate it, but part of me is a bit afraid. Not know­ing what he may have men­tioned to his friends and how they may treat me has me wor­ried. Should I try and be friends with them or should I let it go? — OUT AND PROUD IN PENN­SYL­VA­NIA

DEAR OUT AND PROUD: I’d hate to see you iso­late your­self. In­te­grat­ing the neigh­bor­hood would be ben­e­fi­cial to all. Give it a try, gauge the way th­ese in­di­vid­u­als treat you and make your fi­nal de­ci­sion then.

DEAR ABBY: I work with a won­der­ful older woman. Un­for­tu­nately, she smells of cat urine. It’s re­ally bad — to the point I have moved out of our shared of­fice, and there are plans to move her into her own of­fice. How­ever, that may be months off. She still has of­fice mates, and she’s in kind of a “hub.” She lives alone with two dogs and an un­known (to me) num­ber of cats. How can I kindly ad­dress this with her? I have let man­age­ment know, but they are re­luc­tant to ad­dress this. — NOSE KNOWS IN THE SOUTH

DEAR NOSE: It is not your job to ad­dress this prob­lem with your co-worker. It is man­age­ment’s re­spon­si­bil­ity. Be­cause you have com­plained and noth­ing was done, it’s time for the oth­ers who are af­fected by the odor to ad­dress man­age­ment about it COL­LEC­TIVELY.

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