Wid­owed mother be­gins af­fair with mar­ried brother-in-law

The Korea Times - - HOROSCOPE - By Abi­gail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: My fa­ther died three years ago. For the past two years, I have sus­pected that my mother and my un­cle have been hav­ing an af­fair. They live in dif­fer­ent states and text back and forth. She has left her phone open when she has gone places with us, and the com­ments are very sex­u­ally ori­ented.

I be­came sus­pi­cious when my un­cle came to visit and they took a trip to­gether and ended up stay­ing overnight some­where. A cou­ple of months later, my aunt and un­cle came to visit, and Mom asked me NOT to say any­thing about the trip in front of his wife.

Then Mom started lock­ing her phone, and if she wants to show you some­thing, she holds onto her phone for dear life. She asked me to look on her phone for some­thing re­cently while she was driv­ing us some­place and she was so wor­ried about her phone, I was afraid she was go­ing to cause an ac­ci­dent be­cause she was try­ing to watch what I was do­ing.

The last time my aunt and un­cle were here, Mom tried ev­ery­thing she could to get my un­cle alone. I tried as hard as I could to not let that hap­pen. I feel my aunt needs to know what is go­ing on. I’m not sure how to ap­proach this or if I should leave it alone. — WIT­NESS IN WIS­CON­SIN

DEAR WIT­NESS: What you should do is take a gi­ant step back. Do not in­volve your­self in this po­ten­tial mess and do not be the bearer of bad tid­ings to your aunt. If you are go­ing to talk to any­one, talk to your mother.

DEAR ABBY: I have been hap­pily mar­ried to my hus­band, “Clyde,” for 14 years, and we have a 12-yearold son. Clyde is the nicest man I have ever met, nice to a point that drives me in­sane. He in­vites com­plete strangers over to our house.

Last week, he brought a home­less 20-some­thing-year-old woman with him when he came home from work. With­out my con­sent, he let her stay over for FOUR DAYS, un­til I forced her to leave. Af­ter she left, Clyde got mad and said my ac­tions were “rude” and “dis­re­spect­ful.” I think it is un­safe for strangers to be al­lowed in our home, es­pe­cially with our son around.

Abby, I don’t know what to do. If I can’t find a way to stop my hus­band’s reck­less­ness, I may have to end our mar­riage. Please help. — OVER­WHELMED IN PENN­SYL­VA­NIA

DEAR OVER­WHELMED: In most mar­riages, spouses have enough con­sid­er­a­tion for each other that they ask first be­fore invit­ing some­one into their home. Your “nice” hus­band seems to have for­got­ten this.

Your con­cerns are valid. Be­cause you can’t seem to get through to him that what he is do­ing is risky, in­sist on some ses­sions with a li­censed mar­riage and fam­ily ther­a­pist. Per­haps that per­son can get through to him. He may think what he’s do­ing is ad­mirable, but there are other ways to help home­less in­di­vid­u­als.

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