They’ve cried, but th­ese girls show that size ain’t no thang

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Ift here’s any­thing good about the di­rec­tion the world is head­ing, it’ s how peo­ple and brands are re­lent­lessly chal­leng­ing and chang­ing t he norms of what the me­dia tells us is ac­cept­able or beau­ti­ful. Over the past few years our feeds have tran­si­tioned from overly-done to# no Pho­to­shop pledges. Case in point: As os. com has stopped photo shop­ping its mod­els, top beauty brands like Fenty Beauty are us­ing mod­els across t he colour spec­trum (#in­clu­siv­ity!), and well- known plus size mod­els like Paloma E ls es se rand Ash­ley Gra­ham have be­come f aces of global cos­met­ics brands.

For gen­er­a­tions we have thought of thin tobe beau­ti­ful, so con­fi­dence has never fully been equated to be­ing big. Here, three Malaysian women share their thoughts and ex­pe­ri­ences that comes with be­ing plus-size fe­males, and how the world needs to get over the word“fat ”.

Nazi­rah Ashari, Strate­gic Plan­ner

Nazi rah uses the word fat—that’ s right, fat. We’ve been con­di­tioned so much to as­so­ci­ate t he word with a neg­a­tive feel­ing when it fact, it’ s just a word. “Be­ing a fat Mus­lim girl who prac­tices mod­est fash­ion, peo­ple like me aren’t even rep­re­sented. Where are all the fat hi­jabis? ” asked Nazi rah.

Deal­ing With Body Shamers

“I worked on reframing my mind­set to care more about what I think, in­stead. It was the process I had togo through in or­der to gain con­trol of my mind and it hasn’t been easy ,” said Nazi rah.

The Key To Con­fi­dence

“Hon­estly, peo­ple have this idea that I’ m a very con­fi­dent per­son, which isn’ t en­tirely in­ac­cu­rate but there is a layer of self-doubt that I’ m still strug­gling with. A con­ver­sa­tion about con­fi­dence is big­ger than just your body—your thoughts and hear t need to be equally as pos­i­tive too,” she said.

There Is No One-Size Fits All

“Here’s what we need to get: Ever y man and wo­man has a fig­ure. We need to quit pi­geon­hol­ing a shape and stop glo­ri­fy­ing an­other. Cel­e­brate ever y sin­gle body and shape! ” she said.

Rat­nadevi Owner of Adevi Cloth­ing

Be­sides start­ing her own line of plus-size cloth­ing t hat caters to sizes UK14–28, Ratna was also be­hind the cam­paign# justw earl ah which en­cour­aged women of all sizes to be proud of their fash­ion choices and not pay at­ten­tion to the rules we’ve been t aught to abide by.

Sur­round Your­self With The Right Peo­ple

“It’ s cru­cial to have friends who are body­pos­i­tive be­cause they re­ally help shape your think­ing and sup­port you when you’ re faced with trolls and com­ments from the pub­lic, and some­times even your fam­ily ,” she said.

There Needs to Be More Diver­sity

The fat-pos­i­tive move­ment has mor­phed into the body pos­i­tiv­ity move­ment that ev­ery­one is apart of now. How­ever, peo­ple tend to for­get that the move­ment was ini­tially started by fat women for fat women .“I do feel like the move­ment has sort of lost its con­text—we need to be more in­clu­sive of our fat folks who are trans gen­der, queer. This is the diver­sity we need to see ,” she ex­plained.

Star t By Be­ing Grate­ful

“For ev­ery­day that I am able to move, go places and do things, I am so grate­ful for my body. It al­lows met odo th­ese amaz­ing things ,” Ratna said.

Rathika Sheila Copy­writer

The 26- year-old is su­perb ly hi­lar­i­ous, as you’ll re­alise with her witty cap­tions she share son Ins tag ram. But pep­pered in you will also find some hard-hit­ting ones where she high­lights the strug­gles of grow­ing up‘ un­fair and lovely’ and how she grew up defin­ing her­self by t he names she was called.

Un­learn­ing What You’ve Learnt

“Af­ter singing the same song for awhile (“I’ m fat and ugly, and no one loves me ”) I de­cided I needed a new tune. Learn­ing to deal with it has been a work in progress. I’ m not go­ing to be ev­ery­one’ s cup of tea and that’ s okay ,” she said.

Can’t Find Your Role Model? Be One.

“I don’t be­lieve that one per­son can be the truest and most ac­cu­rate rep­re­sen­ta­tion f or a group of peo­ple. If there’ s no one shar­ing their ex­pe­ri­ence and strug­gles that you can res­onate with, fill in the gap and be that per­son. Use your so­cial me­dia plat­forms to your ad­van­tage and bring at­ten­tion to what ’ s not be­ing heav­ily dis­cussed to­day.”

Catch up with her at @ nazi­ra­hashari

Head over to @ rathikasheila for witty cap­tions

Check out @ ade­vi­cloth­ing to peep the new­est ar­rivals

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