They’ve cried, but these girls show that size ain’t no thang
Ift here’s anything good about the direction the world is heading, it’ s how people and brands are relentlessly challenging and changing t he norms of what the media tells us is acceptable or beautiful. Over the past few years our feeds have transitioned from overly-done to# no Photoshop pledges. Case in point: As os. com has stopped photo shopping its models, top beauty brands like Fenty Beauty are using models across t he colour spectrum (#inclusivity!), and well- known plus size models like Paloma E ls es se rand Ashley Graham have become f aces of global cosmetics brands.
For generations we have thought of thin tobe beautiful, so confidence has never fully been equated to being big. Here, three Malaysian women share their thoughts and experiences that comes with being plus-size females, and how the world needs to get over the word“fat ”.
Nazirah Ashari, Strategic Planner
Nazi rah uses the word fat—that’ s right, fat. We’ve been conditioned so much to associate t he word with a negative feeling when it fact, it’ s just a word. “Being a fat Muslim girl who practices modest fashion, people like me aren’t even represented. Where are all the fat hijabis? ” asked Nazi rah.
Dealing With Body Shamers
“I worked on reframing my mindset to care more about what I think, instead. It was the process I had togo through in order to gain control of my mind and it hasn’t been easy ,” said Nazi rah.
The Key To Confidence
“Honestly, people have this idea that I’ m a very confident person, which isn’ t entirely inaccurate but there is a layer of self-doubt that I’ m still struggling with. A conversation about confidence is bigger than just your body—your thoughts and hear t need to be equally as positive too,” she said.
There Is No One-Size Fits All
“Here’s what we need to get: Ever y man and woman has a figure. We need to quit pigeonholing a shape and stop glorifying another. Celebrate ever y single body and shape! ” she said.
Ratnadevi Owner of Adevi Clothing
Besides starting her own line of plus-size clothing t hat caters to sizes UK14–28, Ratna was also behind the campaign# justw earl ah which encouraged women of all sizes to be proud of their fashion choices and not pay attention to the rules we’ve been t aught to abide by.
Surround Yourself With The Right People
“It’ s crucial to have friends who are bodypositive because they really help shape your thinking and support you when you’ re faced with trolls and comments from the public, and sometimes even your family ,” she said.
There Needs to Be More Diversity
The fat-positive movement has morphed into the body positivity movement that everyone is apart of now. However, people tend to forget that the movement was initially started by fat women for fat women .“I do feel like the movement has sort of lost its context—we need to be more inclusive of our fat folks who are trans gender, queer. This is the diversity we need to see ,” she explained.
Star t By Being Grateful
“For everyday that I am able to move, go places and do things, I am so grateful for my body. It allows met odo these amazing things ,” Ratna said.
Rathika Sheila Copywriter
The 26- year-old is superb ly hilarious, as you’ll realise with her witty captions she share son Ins tag ram. But peppered in you will also find some hard-hitting ones where she highlights the struggles of growing up‘ unfair and lovely’ and how she grew up defining herself by t he names she was called.
Unlearning What You’ve Learnt
“After singing the same song for awhile (“I’ m fat and ugly, and no one loves me ”) I decided I needed a new tune. Learning to deal with it has been a work in progress. I’ m not going to be everyone’ s cup of tea and that’ s okay ,” she said.
Can’t Find Your Role Model? Be One.
“I don’t believe that one person can be the truest and most accurate representation f or a group of people. If there’ s no one sharing their experience and struggles that you can resonate with, fill in the gap and be that person. Use your social media platforms to your advantage and bring attention to what ’ s not being heavily discussed today.”
Catch up with her at @ nazirahashari
Head over to @ rathikasheila for witty captions
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