Break Up With Your Phone
It’ s time you had the talk with your social media
Envy.It’ s literally a deadly sin. Yet why do we all allow ourselves to succumb to it every single moment of our modern lives? Your mental health hang sin the balance, and it doesn’t even need to involve a cyber bully bringing you down. It seems that you can even lay the trap for yourself, and you put yourself into a vicious cycle just by a scroll of your feed. What’ s scariest about this is that it’ s all on us. Let’ s get something straight—everyone experiences envy from time to time; that’ s perfectly okay .“First and foremost, everyone should accept the fact that they’ re experiencing such feelings. This is the first step to overcoming denial and to start working on the problem ,” says Ms R.R. Manjari, Consultant Clinical Psychologist at Gleneagles Medini Hospital . However, what ’ s not okay?
WHERE IS THE LINE
When you’ re continuously feeding that feeling by stalking someone till you’ re years deep into their Facebook or Ins tag ram feed, what good is that going to bring? A study conducted by the University of Copenhagen in 2016 showed that Facebook made its participants unhappy, and made those who experienced envy to be depressed. In fact, participants who took a week-long break from the social site showed signs of being happier and scored their own well-being tobe higher than it was previously.
While it’ s unrealistic form os tofus to completely move away from social media, we have insight as to what could be the real problem.
LOOK AT YOUR CONFIDENCE
“The use of social media can be perceived to be a way of keeping in touch with loved ones—which can bed one privately or shared publicly, which falls under a different motive. The latter can have a negative impact on individuals with low self-esteem and selfconfidence. People with high self-confidence are less negatively
Keep your expectations, goals, purpose in life and responsibilities in life in check. Once each of these aspects are somewhat clear, it will be easy to move on from feelings of envy.
impacted by social media than those with lower self-confidence. By constantly comparing yourselves to the apparently‘ perfect’ lives online, social media can cause those with low self-confidence to become more envious , anxious or even depressed. And all due to t he notion that someone else seem stole ada better life than them or has something that they don’t ,” explained Ms Manjari.
A little practice we’ve found useful? List out the things about yourself that you like or you’ re proud of—especially during times where you’ re just not feeling yourself. Or grab a friend for a little pep talk!
REMEMBER: THE INFINITE FILTERS
Always remind yourself that it’ s scientific ally-proven that us human are way more likely to share positive things on social media over negative ones. Psychologists refer to this as‘ positioning yourself the way you want tobe seen ’. Ms Manjari adds ,“Remember, like pictures, someone’ s social media feed is merely a snapshot of their life .”
Before you start thinking ,” Why is this person getting a promotion ?” or” She’s always on holidays ”, stop and think—do you know the amount of work this individual had to put into get that promotion? Are you putting in the same amount of effort? And do you actually know what they’ re going through? The truth is that they’ re most likely portraying just the best, filtered bits of their lives. It’ s just that we can’t help comparing ourselves—nip it in the bud by stopping yourself.
Go through the list of people you follow and Ins tag ram and be honest with yourself. Have you outgrown certain role models or celebs whom you follow? Which of these accounts elicit envy the most in you? You can simply hi tun follow, but it’ s also your chance to delve deeper.
What is it about these posts that makes you envious? Are you envious of a fitness trainer who has a banging body? Are you envious of social influence rs who seem to live that jet-setting lifestyle? Maybe deep down there’ s something you personally feel you’ve not achieved that’ s causing the envy to bubble up. Work on yourself on your own pace.
Ms Manjari ’s advice? “Keep your expectations , goals , purpose in life and responsibilities in life in check. Once each of these aspects are somewhat clear, it will be easy to move on from feelings of envy .”
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