Crushing On You
I n this day and age, having a secret admirer isn’t always a bed of roses
Inth eh ea dy days of high school , secret admirers used to be a cute thing. Hell, even in thee rap re-Internet, it seemed pretty sweet to get a rose or bunch of flowers from someone who crushed on you. Good for thee go, right?
Now, our whereabouts can be traced with a few taps in a search bar or swipes of age o-tagged location. Compounding t hat with the relative ease our lives are made public or made available to strangers , something as innocuous as receiving an on flowers can be mistaken as something less innocent .# TeamCLEO spoke to two different florists in the Klang Valley, who handle quite different clientele, who have encountered similar anon orders. Not surprisingly, it isn’ t uncommon.
THE SECRET LIFE OF FLORISTS
Chen* is an established florist, having operated over 20 years, and revealed that the market trend nowadays are f or home use. When probed about unusual orders , she had some she could candidly share .“There was one yea raman came in last minute on Valentine’s Day to order a bouquet of 999 roses worth RM 20,000. He ordered it to be sent to a night club—it took six florists to make and four big men to deliver in a truck !” Another time, she noticed when a bro got busy .“One also ordered flowers for four different girls, with four different addresses, for Valentine’s Day,” she revealed.
Nur* is a new player in the industry, but has already seen her share of strange requests. “Giving flowers to a loved one is always a heart felt gesture. We of ten receive requests f rom our clients to remain ‘ secret ’ and we respect t hat. Sometimes being a secret admirer takes courage especially when the person is speaking from the heart .”
When it comes to sender ’s privacy, t hough, they need to respect it like florist-client privilege. It’ s a precious contract t hat t hey keep sanctimonious. “The reactions have always been of delight and of course surprise. Some recipients , both male and female, do contact us trying to find out who sent the flowers. Confidentiality on our side is always important and respect t he sender ’s wishes , ” explained Nur.
THORN IN YOUR SIDE
What happens when things aren’t all peachy keen? Chen mentioned ,“Am an once stormed into our office demanding to know who sent his wife’s flowers. We had to reject his request as that is strictly confidential .”
Too much, and it can disrupt the receiver’ s privacy and start to be unnerving. Nur opened up to us about the one time the receiver refused to accept the flowers, no matter how beautiful they were. The reason was that she was not seeing anyone at the time .“The term‘ secret admirer’ freaked her out. She was worried for her safety and she requested to be informed if it was going to occur again ,” said Nur.
Chen revealed that while they respected all wishes of the customers, some things are out of bounds .“Wed raw the line at sending flowers out of ill-intent. We once received a request to send a condolence wreath to someone’s house with a message bordering on evil . We declined to send t he order,” revealed Chen.
It makes you wonder how florists feel as the middle-person .“As a florist, we are sometimes caught in between, but we have procedures we go through to remedy this and usually it’ s a happy ending.
“We never ask or tell, because we have a very strict client confidentiality policy—so we treat all orders t he same,” said Nur.
She was not seeing anyone at the time, and the term ‘secret admirer’ freaked her out.