In 2020, forgive and ask for forgiveness

CONFUCIUS once said: “By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”

Unlike our favourite movies and novels that we watch and read for hours, the end of the year is not about a happy or sad ending. Rather, it is about being reflective, appreciative and grateful as we look back on those days when we faced challenges, survived ordeals, took risks, and contemplated decisions.

Grateful people always remember to count their blessings. However, it may be a challenge for us to remember to feel grateful every time, as strong emotions could take us over.

For instance, we may forget to express our gratitude when receiving good news or forget to appreciate those who have helped us accomplish our goals as overexcitement takes control. When dealing with conflicts, we may end up being irrational instead of professional, forgetting that there may be silver linings on the flip side.

Reminiscing about good memories and writing down things that we should be thankful for will help us forget our problems while making us open our eyes to blessings we may have overlooked before; it can also fill our minds with feelings of love, joy and happiness. And we can also develop feelings of humility and empathy, as we reflect about those who are less fortunate.

As I’m sure we all wish to begin the new year with a calm heart and healthy mind, let us relinquish our egos and reconcile with and forgive each other.

Indeed, nothing beats the feeling of peacefulness when our heart is at ease and our soul lets go of feelings of anger and hatred buried deep inside.

These negative burdens take up our energy and stop us from being passionate about living a positive life. Forgiving is a noble act, while asking for forgiveness from others is the right thing to do although it means acknowledging that we have done something wrong.

MUHAMAD SOLAHUDIN RAMLI Marang, Terengganu