COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING!

In line with Martin Luther King Jr (1957), I believe that “life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?’” for the ramifications of doing-for-others or helping, in reference to counselling research and practice, far exceed the mere acts of doing and helping and the benefits reaped by those on the receiving end. I am therefore writing this short article to explain how my affinity for helping has shaped both my existence and livelihood so far.

To start on a personal note, my relationship with helping dates back to my childhood. Since I am the youngest of a family that holds dear the core value of social responsibility, I had plenty of role models to learn from while growing up. Yet, because social responsibility in the form of doing-for-others and helping can take many forms, I first had to identify my preference and abilities in relation to doing-for-others and helping before I could make the most out of my need to help. It was then during this experimental phase toward becoming useful to others that I learned about my deep sense of “empathic concern” (Batson et al., 2015, p. 1) for humanity, which moulds my accrescent passion for social justice. Indeed, empathic concern is a sense so palpable and enduring within me that in adulthood, I proceeded to hone it through my academic path within the Faculty for Social Wellbeing; specifically, the Master of Arts in Transcultural Counselling offered by the Department of Counselling.

Thus, in brief, my human attributes coupled with exposure to my family’s core value of social responsibility started me on a search to identify my preferred brand of social responsibility, which in turn led me on an academic path in helping that is still unfolding today. Further, to practice an honourable profession that, besides transforming me into a socially just advocate and change agent, provides me with hope, existential meaning and purpose; channels my feelings of distress into what is known as a helper’s high which in turn improves my mental and physical health; empowers me to reciprocate the help received throughout my lifetime; positions me favourably in other people’s eyes; plus gives me access to financial security and a rewarding career. Indeed, I could write volumes about my personal gains from helping.

It is, then, my heightened awareness around and appreciation of all personal gains and privilege derived from helping that inspired me to title this article as I did as, at face value, doing-for-others and helping are easily misconstrued as “purely altruistic” (Ngozi & Thanh, 2020, p. 215), or even worse, saintly acts. Holding such naive preconceptions about doing-for-others or helping is indeed risky and overshadows the fact that elements of self-interest and self-preservation are always present in everything, we, mere mortals, do (Batson et al., 2015).

Conversely, I equally do not write this piece to depreciate doing-for-others, helping or the helping professions in which the ultimate goal is to increase another’s welfare. Undoubtedly, it is likewise mistaken to devalue doing and helping, or simply chalk them off as “purely-egoistic” (Ngozi & Thanh, 2020, p. 215) or predominantly “selfishly motivated” (p. 216) behaviour just because they happen to reward doers and helpers with inevitable personal gains and privilege. A constellation of gains and privilege, I dare add, that doers and helpers work hard for, as even this reflection about reaping coincidental benefits is an intensive soul-searching exercise